Sexy spices to spice up your life

As sartorial gender boundaries blur further, women have moved beyond the 'inspired look', and are opting for the real thing.
Is there ever a good reason to cheat, or get married? A former VJ tells you all your mother won't tell you about love A new study has found that women want to be bedded by experienced men, but men prefer to have women who have had no experience whatsoever. 

According to a study for MSN, women prefer the likes of serial-dater George Clooney, while men go for girl-next-door types such as Holly Willoughby or Myleene Klass over sex sirens, theDaily Star reported.

The study also found that 1 in 10 men want to have bedded at least 11 women before meeting their ideal partner and just 5 percent women wish they had slept with more than 10 men before meeting their life partner.

The findings also showed that both the sexes prefer witty partners.

There's good reason you should be listening to former VJ-now actor Juhi Pande when she spouts wisdom on love. The Air Force brat spent the first 20 years of her life shuttling schools, cities and crushes. Which makes her an expert of 'getting over love'. Her grandparents, both doctors, fell in love at medical school. "They got married, had three children, doctored around India while managing a large family and continued to love each other silently", she writes in her just released book, Things Your Mother Never Told You About Love. Which makes romance a key component in her genes. Here's the best of advice she shares on 'boy-girl relationships'.
College students assume that sexting is the safest bet when it comes to on-campus sexual interaction, but there are some unspoken rules that are rarely addressed when it comes to sending steamy texts. 

Julia Reinstein, a sex columnist at American University, claims that the word "pussy" is not a sexy term for a woman's lady-parts and that there is no socially comfortable word for "vagina" in sexting, the Huffington Postreported. She said that the only reason we don't think "vagina" is a sexy word is because we've been taught that "vagina" isn't a sexy word.

Laken Howard, sex columnist at Northwestern University, felt similarly, especially when it related to sexting. Reinstein said that for some people, "pussy" works and for some other words are going to work, while for others, they're just not going to get turned on by saying any words. She added that it's all about what makes you feel sexy and good and comfortable.

Tackling distraction 
I don't want to trivialize or glorify distraction. I want to treat it as something that certain people have an affinity for. In fact, another way of looking at it would be to consider yourself a polymath or at least a person with the potential to be a polymath. (Sometimes there is too much forced focus in one concentrated area of study/work. This squashes the chances of having a wider variety of interests. The thirst for knowledge/expertise is more linear than broad, thereby leading to the death of the polymath.) And if you do happen to have that affinity, embrace it. Because when it is time to stop getting distracted, you will...

Of course, it doesn't always retain such innocence. Sometimes things get messy. You could be in a relationship and fall for someone else. Would that be considered distraction? Sure. Would it be okay to leave who you're with and chase after the shiny new object?

... Here is a set of questions, which you should ask yourself when you're about to do said crime. (Observe how it's moved from distraction to crime in a matter of four ntences.) Are you distracted because you have spent far too much time in your current relationship and things have become mundane? Are you distracted because you've fallen out of love? Are you distracted because your boyfriend wears crocs and you're this close to setting his head on fire? Are you distracted because you didn't consider all factors before getting into this relationship and were just happy that someone liked you? Is the object of your new affection Ryan Gosling from Place Behind the Pines? Is the object of your new affection an Abercrombie & Fitch model with an IQ level that is a single git number? Do you need constant excitement and is your current situation not giving you that? Are you a commitment-phobe? What's the sound of one hand clapping? Are you and your boyfriend a complete mismatch and has it taken you some time to figure it out? Are you stupid? Once you tackle these questions and come to a decision that there's a possibility that you might have fallen out of love and do not want to be in your current relationship, go ahead and take all measures to exit from it. There is nothing wrong in bowing out of a situation that doesn't make you happy. Which is possibly the reason why you were getting attracted to the other person in the first place. But, if after giving it a lot of thought you realize that you are actually in love and can't do without your partner, then work on the relationship.

A lot of times people get set in their ways and things get routine, and that has the ability to suck the joy out of anything. 'If you think adventure is dangerous, try routine; it is lethal.' I wish I had come up with this quote, but then I'd have to change my name to Paulo Coelho. But that line sums it up. If it is because of routine that your life seems bleak, tackle that, forget the distraction, and do everything in your power to make yourself happy.

Facing deceit 
Access to people has become much easier, making social interactions, albeit mostly virtual, effortless. As a girl you no longer have to wait for a guy to ask you for your number. You can casually send him a message on Facebook telling him how bored you are on a lonely Friday night. Slam. Bam. Instead of resolving a problem with a relationship you wrap it up and walk away into the sunset, secretly hoping twitter handle @ImCool&SexyBoi will meet you half way. Distractions come easy, so the fatigue of resolving problems seems so cumbersome that to exit and start something new and thrilling has its own sense of excitement, beautifully wrapped in fairy lights and heart-shaped bubbles.

It doesn't start out as deceit, but eventually, and if you allow it, it slowly and softly turns into chicanery. This gives rise to the ability to weasel out of a relationship, instead of giving it the grace that is required to end a relationship.

Having someone in hand before letting go of the first. No one says this is wrong, but if you walk around with a funny feeling in the pit of your stomach thinking you did something wrong, you probably did...

Pick a side. I've always believed in this little line. Pick a side, choose a path, and roll with it. Grey areas bore me. There's too much noise and very little said, there's a lot of assumptions and too little done...

The black and white bits are easy. If you want a steady relationship, then you have to steer as clear of deceit as it may be humanly possible. Because if you're found guilty, you will have hell to pay, and then it won't matter whether your partner is doing the same as you, it just becomes a game of who gets caught first.

Asking why get married 
Getting married is serious business. If you're all for it, then you should do it once and for all the right reasons. A person can have several reasons or ideas about why he or she should get married. Now I know I am no messiah of marriage and have zero understanding of it and neither am I married, but after being around a family of successfully married and happy people I have been able to deduce a few things which make perfect sense to me. (You may or may not agree with all of them. Like I said, this is my take so far.)

Some say that beauty lies in a woman's refusal to fit in a mould. That is what many Hollywood and Bollywood divas seem to be doing, that is, thinking out of the box. Although androgyny has always played hide and seek in a girl's closet, it's only now that the 'his and her' divide has been rendered irrelevant. Recently, Angelina Jolie sent the Bafta red carpet into a frenzy when she struck a pose with beau Brad Pitt in a matching black tuxedo. While Oscars host Ellen DeGeneres looked quite dapper in her custom-made Saint Laurent suits, actress Ellen Page, too, spiced things up in a black tuxedo and a slim tie at a party. At another soiree, Kourtney Kardashian followed suit, literally.
Closer home, from Priyanka Chopra, Deepika Padukone and Alia Bhatt to Sonam Kapoor, Anushka Sharma, Kangana Ranaut, Madhuri Dixit-Nene and Juhi Chawla, all seem to have been smitten with the 'power look'. They have not only made the 'lapelled jackets-fitted pants' trend popular, they have also infused femininity, colour and pizzazz into the silhouette.
It's not just about suiting up - wearing it right is the key to nailing the look. Now that the power suit has moved out of the boardroom, one can experiment with its structuring, colour palette, print as well as pairing and accessorizing. As the look itself is oh-so-powerful, the trick is to keep it simple and sexy.
A hint of print or absolutely no print, a dash of bling or a splash of colour, a skinny tie or slim lapels, a double-breasted or a waistcoat - everything works. While slim pants, chinos and even formal pants make perfect companions, one can pair them with formal shirts, Peter Pan collar dresses, and printed and embellished tops of all lengths.
It's time to treat all those kitchen spices with some extra respect. Reason?

They can sure add lots of sizzle to your passion quotient and spice up your sex life. Check out these mythological formulas mentioned in our folklores...

Basil: The sweet scent is believed to make men lust after a woman wearing it. Ancient Greeks gave it to horses before breeding them.

Cloves: Used in aromatherapy to increase sexual desire. It improves blood flow and body temperature when eaten.

Coriander: In the tale, The Arabian Nights, a merchant who was childless for 40 years is cured by a concoction that includes coriander. Hippocrates made a wedding drink containing it to stimulate libido of the newlyweds.

Fennel: Contains estirol, an estrogen-like substance. Ancient Egyptians used it to boost libido in women.

Fenugreek: The seeds contain saponins, which play a role in increasing testosterone production. A 2011 study showed it raised libido in men.

Ginger: Improves circulation and is believed to increase blood flow to sexual organs.

Ginseng: Used by traditional healers to treat erectile dysfunction (ED) related to stress. Early evidence suggests it may be effective, but more research is needed.

Nutmeg: Valued it as an aphrodisiac by Chinese women, referred to as the "Viagra for Women" in Africa. Can produce hallucinations when used in quantity.

Saffron: An extensive review of food aphrodisiacs done in 2011 found just a few threads can improve ED, but was not as effective as Viagra.

You may not believe it, but if you're on a date with a woman or cosy with someone at a house party and things are going well, when you lean in to kiss her, that may determine whether or not you'll be going any further with her.

The perfect kiss can make your girl desire you like you can't imagine. The incorrect kiss can leave you wondering what went wrong. It's up to you to perfect your skills.

No doubt every woman likes to be made out with differently and while it's not a case of 'one size fits all', they all like to feel that the man who is kissing them feels a strong desire and passion for them.

So keeping that in mind, here's how to use your lips to turn on the heat with her:

Setting
Opportunities will present themselves now and then, although you won't always be lucky enough to find the best place. The trick is to learn how to spot and take advantage of those opportunities. It could help you end up with a lovely, long term relationship.

Don't be shy. The next time you two are together in public, but in a place where you'll are relatively alone, maybe near the sea the shore at sunset, or even stopped parked in the car during an evening drive, sense the mood and hold her. Give her a soft, moist kiss for a few seconds.

Not only will you be thought of as spontaneous, but the right setting will give her romantic notions a serious kick, and she will cherish that moment.

And while you're kissing her. Don't go too fast and try to feel her breasts up or put your hands in her pants immediately. That's an amateur move. She'll pull away.

Instead, be the romantic stud of her dreams. Caress her back slowly, hold the small of her waist, gently cup her face with both hands. As her passion increases, intertwine your fingers with hers. Make her feel several sensory inputs of pleasure.

The right energy
You might have seen many mushy films, but remember that this is not a Mills & Boon book or a soap opera. Don't be dramatic or she might burst out laughing. The important thing is to deep kiss her passionately and make her feel like she's the only woman in the world who matters to you.

If things are going good, you can slowly pull back, stop kissing her and look at her before she moves in to continue again. When she comes in, let your lips lightly brush hers.

Explore
Long durations of kissing on the mouth solely can get boring. Feel free to kiss other parts of her face like her earlobes, cheeks, eyebrows, or even just one lip at a time.

Then when her breathing increases and you feel her responding very well, that's when you should move down to her neck, collarbone, shoulders, and her hands and wrists. Make sure that you show her that you desire her.

Don't focus just on her lips. Probe inside her mouth and massage her tongue with yours. You will find her doing the same thing. Do not bite her lips and definitely don't suck her tongue or lips. And avoid stupid soap opera type kisses where you constantly sway your head from side to side. Follow these moves when you are next having a romantic evening with your girl.Sure shot ways to know if he has the signs of a cheater

So you've just met him and you think he's a charmer, well most men who cheat are brilliant at charming you off your feet. Here are some signs to look for to know if he's the type who'll cheat on you.

Not a mama's boy - We all know the mama's boy types and they can be really annoying too. But if your guy isn't too attached to his mother and has a tumultuous relationship with her, you can bet that he isn't the kinds who will stay around for too long (think Charlie Harper from Two and a Half Men). If you've heard him talk badly of her (even though he's only known you for a short while) or even if he insults or yells at her when you're around, he doesn't respect her and neither will he respect you.

Affection, what's that? - He can charm you in a matter of seconds and flirt in such a way it will make you melt into a blubbery mess, but when it comes to affection he is aloof. He's excellent at physical intimacy but if a block of wood has more emotion that he does, you better run, because he isn't going to be around for too long.

The mystery man - His mysteriousity may be the reason you fell for him in the first place, but if he is secretive at all times, gets jumpy when you as much as touch his phone and has an empty message folder - cheater alert! People who cheat are secretive about things, he will never tell you where he is going or what he has been upto. But yes, he will love knowing all about you. He is a good listener because he doesn't want to talk anyway.

Honey, I forgot! - If he forgets to show up on dates or calls to cancel last minute, he is definitely a cheater. He probably had a better option than you, someone who he doesn't have to go to watch a chick flick with or go shopping with and so he royally dumped you at the last moment. Steer clear of such guys, all they are is trouble.

Possessive and protective - He loves to control you; he likes to know where you are without giving out his own info. This guy is just trying to make sure where you are so you don't bump into him with someone else. But he is never going to tell you where he is. If your boyfriend asks you to stop hanging out with certain friends at the start of a relationship, it is time to get a reality check on him.

He keeps you a secret - This one's a sure shot giveaway, he wants to keep the relationship a secret until it's the 'right time'. So you've never met any of his friends, but he's met yours. This is probably because he wants to make sure he knows there faces, lest he bump into them with his other girlfriend. His facebook status is single and if a girl flirts with him, you only assume she is doing so because she isn't aware he is taken.

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