Let’s dance the Soi Lek  foxtrot

there's no need to hold back.

Breathing heavy

This is usually a dead give away and impossible to mask or fake. As the body is excited and turned on, the breath becomes more urgent and rapid. Involuntary moans are made as air rapidly makes its way through her vocal chords. The heart rate increases as the body prepares for an orgasm, making her internal organs demand more oxygen. A thumping heart rate and urgent breathing should let you know that you're on the right track. However, if immediately after a big orgasm, she's back to a slow restful pace of breath, you just witnessed a big show.

Writhing heights

When a body enthusiastically responds to another, it urges for proximity. If she's grinding or pushing herself against you, trying to hold or hug you, her body language is as inviting as it gets. Curling toes are another good indicator, but try to catch a glance offhand. If the motion is subconscious, it's probably genuine. If however, she's lying there waiting for you to do all the hard work, there's probably a little that's happening in terms of arousal for her. You need to regroup and restart. Try changing positions or focus on her erogenous zones to get her attention.

Hip action

A little known secret about good sex is that it's tremendously synchronized. The way the bodies were designed, they were meant to move repeatedly in the same motion until both achieved a climax. So if you find her matching your moves, you've hit the right notes and just need to make it to the finish line. Sometimes it takes a little time to get in sync but if you don't see it happening, chances are that her body is telling you it wants something else, another position perhaps. Wait for her to respond with the same intensity.

In the deep

Once you are in the zone and aiming for the finish, given the sensitivity of organs involved, you should be able to feel her strong internal muscles act against yours. With spasms and some amount of clenching, you'll get a good idea of how well you're doing. However, don't use it as a benchmark since not all women have the same amount of control over their kegel muscles. Some amount of contraction and relaxation that you may feel could be for her own pleasure, but pay close attention to what her overall intensity is telling you.

What works for one woman may never work for another but the idea is to be attuned to the feedback her body language is giving you. If you feel like you're not in sync, pause and try something new. Avoid sticking to a routine or becoming predictable. Spice things up with experimentation, teasing and tantalizing your partner and keep an eye out for fake moans and forced emotions

Here is the sad part of the story:  the MCA does not lack issues to pain Soi Lek  in a corner: scam after scam has besmirched  , inflation has created havoc for the poor and the middle classes, the uneven pace of the economic reform process hasn’t instilled much confidence with the Chinese 

MCA: Voters beware! Kit Siang won't 'service' youDAP's Lim Kit Siang is someone who changes constituencies as often as he changes clothes, without any service to his constituents, charged MCA today.

MCA services Gelang Patah by handling out RM5000 every now and then to some NGOs around here. They also service the residents by handling out forms to give away RM 100 per person. If you not illiterate, you can see they were MCA membership applications forms. Other than that the current MCA rep ( Lady )is hardly seen anyway and roads are still full of potholes, crime is rampant and we dont hear one shit word from her in parliment. At least LKS will make views heard........the people of Gelang Patah welcomes LKS. The MCA is scared stiff! supercession, your use of vocabulary is atrocious and as we say in Malay " Kurang Ajar " . For you its Loh is not what you like or want, but like all Chinese pigs you slaughter your own. LKS cannot even be a MP for any period of time, as to him its a game , a game he plays with the Rakyat. So choose your language properly, and lastly, as an opposition supporter , convince us you are all worthy of your chosen leaders leading this country. At the moment listening to you, the answer is no, and to be frank it will never happen.

But do Soi Lek  really understand “urbanisation”?

 MCA is running out of ideas to attack LKS. He has already served two full terms as the representative for Ipoh Timur. Let the constituents of Ipoh Timur be the judge whether LKS had serviced them well. Of course no one can argue MCA has serviced UMNO pretty well for the past 56 years!What service ? Get some few hundred thousands to renovate a dilipidated chinese school , begging the government to provide scholarship to straight A students , Re tar the roads etc. MCA failed to look at the bigger picture of how the country is being run and what types of policies moving forwards . LKS is at CEO or COO level but MCA is talking about supervisor level . The CEO and COO set direction , long term goals , policies and vision . We need LKS in this aspect not at the supervisor level . LKS as an parliamentarian is for the whole country not for Gelang Patah only . Today , we need LKS to spearhead the country in a proper direction than to service the nitty gritty matter which can be handled by the state assemblyman or JKKK .

 Is he able to think beyond sex flyovers, malls & apartment complexes when we talk of “urbanisation”?  does understand the complex trade-offs that are involved in developing our cities? The strategic planning? The massive investments in infrastructure? Do our MCA leaders have a deep understanding of issues linked to “urbanisation”? Do they possess the empathy – or the sheer determination or the strong political will or soaring imagination or ability to dream? I am not sure they do. well-placed and manipulated land deals. It has also come to be equated with reckless development - with complete disregard of what already exists and a near-total obsession with construction & more construction.  Construction of roads, housing colonies, malls and commercial areas.So long as the political spectrum is not engaged in the substantive aspects of city planning, development and equitable growth,  Malaysian cities, barring exceptions, will remain dysfunctional.." is decisions are not taken on the basis of common good or rationality but on the basis of lobbies and nexus between business, politics and crime. "Unfortunately, most decisions for this city (Mumbai) are taken neither by the politicians nor by the bureaucrats and surely not academically by urban planners. They are taken by the nexus of the builders-underworld-politicians.”Will our Cities become the engines driving Malaysia 's growth or hellholes of misery? That is the only choice we have. We can tame the beast or be devoured by it. Cities & urban areas is where the great "transformation" will happen.Loh Seng Kok after 55 year what has MCA done for the Chinese? Don't stop us for voting BN out!

Much like the Bourbons of France, the MCA seems to be at pains to either learn anything or forget anything. On the eve of the G13election, the party sought to exploit to the hilt the Soi Lek sex adventure . It came a cropper on both occasions. The MCA did not buy the slogan tne pornstar Nor did it lose its sleep when the redoubtable Ong Tee Keat went to the extent of threatening to tonsure MCA president Dr Chua Soi Lek head in case he is not fielded in the Pandan parliamentary constituency. Be a courageous leader. Take on Kit Siang in Gelang Patah and I dare say you are worth your salt. If not, all that is coming out from your mouth are just plain garbage.Rumours may have it but its preposterous to even print CSL's threat of resigning. This guy has no shame but beg for his own candidacy in some Malay dominated Ulu Johor from MOO, away from Gelang Patah.
Does it matter if MCA president Dr Chua Soi Lek is around or not?. CSL just don't get it, isn't?. The Chinese want him and his family to get lost. MCA will be lucky if they can win 5 seats coming GE13.it will be the last central committee meeting, forever and ever.its abundantly clear that you are manhood endowed with your pants off in the video, now lets see you act manly with your pants on and take on LKS in your own turf - Johore, or are you only masculine in bed with women you shouldnt be with Porn actor CSL has no alternative but to resign. CSL should lick OTK a.. as he is man of no integrity BUT a porn actor and he did his job well as a porn actor.

That may be good news for Malaysians after all. We'd rather have someone combative, arrogant, but still trying to do the right thing, or at least a semblance thereof (recall PKFZ), instead of someone morally tainted, and with questionable political machinations, constantly spewing lies, half-truths and inconsistencies. CSL has done nothing good for MCA, leading it down the path of doom instead of doing the right things. Anyway, it shows how lowly UMNO is treating MCA when its President has to throw tantrum to change UMNO's mind about who's to contest in the coming elections.
MCA president Dr Chua Soi Lek is said to have told the party's central committee meeting yesterday that he will resign if the BN fields arch-rival Ong Tee Keat in the Pandan parliamentary constituency. The quicker he get lost from the party the better for the Chinese community of this country. This thick skin fella is a shame to all the Chinese voters ..!!his willingness to resigning over internal politics while keeping mum on real issues that affect the Rakyat like Lynas, NFC and PKFZ shows how worthless you are to the people and the country. Good Riddance to Bad Rubbish. Chua Soi Lek should have the guts to stand against Lim Kit Siang and prove how much support and respect the MCA has in the Chinese community. If Chua loses, he should have the decency to wind up his political career and disappear from public life Don't worry Chua. You may have a future for mature porn movies.Even if you resign now CSL, you won't see any tears in MCA

Since CSL took over as President, MCA has certainly slipped down that slippery slope towards oblivion. CSL should quit. How on earth can a porn actor lead a political party? It's ill gotten money that had pushed him to be voted to the Presidency.Those MCa Delegates whose hands were greased should be herded to prison. Nowhere in the world except Malaysia can a self- confessed porn actor lead a political party.MCA is just a rubber stamp for UMNO. Chua has no control no matter what he claimed. It has always been Najib and now Najib is desperate to win so much so he cannot trust MCA. Ong is a better candidate as for Yen Yen, well she can stand in the middle of our wet market and ask for 'Yes...Yes...Yes'. Chua senior is also not a winnable candidate. In fact MCA is bankrupt of good candidates. So MCA is no longer revelant. Chua senior to blackmail Najib? Chua is nobody as far as Najib is concerned. MCA is a loss cause!

Step up the effort and manage expectations — whether you are a single looking for a partner, or a couple desiring matrimonial bliss

There are those who give up on marriage even before they enter into matrimony, and then there are those who give up on it after a few years of wedded bliss. Both cases are equally sad.

Unable to find a partner and get married, some singles console themselves that they are better off without getting hitched. Having left it too late or set their standards too high, much like a case of sour grapes, they declare that their singlehood is a coveted, chosen status. The truth is that most of us have a small ambit within which we have to choose the partners of our liking. The choice is limited, unless we choose to widen that ambit by stepping out and making an effort to meet people from different walks of life. The more we step out and look, the wider the choice becomes, but there certainly has to be an effort and a determination to succeed. Most singles I know seldom make that effort; all they do is wait for the right person to walk along and ring the bell! In the meanwhile, they keep considering and rejecting those around, or feeling rejected in turn.

However just meeting people isn’t enough; your motivation to get married too has to be high in an age when most needs are already met. Social networking sites help stave off loneliness and fulfil a need to communicate and participate, weakening the desire to step up our search for a life partner. Colleagues and friends at work take care of social needs, and most people do not wait till marriage to experience romance and sex. This distracts and delays the agenda of setting up a marital home. Striking a chord takes more time and effort than we are willing to give, and zeroing in and finalising a partner requires more courage than most care to display. And by the time we smell the coffee, it is too late. Seeing possibilities wane, we try to make the best of the situation and console ourselves that we are better off without marriage.

Equally sad is the case of married people, who after a few years of matrimony, drift away from each other and stop making efforts to improve their wedded bliss. They find it easier to give up on each other and start cohabiting, rather than living together. Bitterness seeps in and eats away at the innards, creating deeper rifts till pain and depression take over life. Here again, it is high expectations and low efforts that create the problem. Most people walk into marriage expecting to find a state of readymade permanent bliss. They fail to realise that perfection is not found in marriage, it needs to be worked upon. That is why many arranged marriages have a better chance of survival than love marriages. You enter the first expecting to work on the marriage and build up a relationship, while you walk into the latter expecting nothing but bliss.

There is no such thing as a perfect marriage or a perfect partner. One can have perfect moments or even perfect days in a marriage, and one can discover perfect aspects in the personality of a partner. Most of the time, it’s looking out of the window that creates problems. Keeping an exit policy in the marriage contract, as Hollywood stars do, is a sure way to start ending the marriage even before it has begun. No wonder then that each of them has several marriages and kids, but is never settled or happy.

The role of passion and commitment cannot be overstressed in a marriage. Making a success of your marriage has to be a passionate commitment, a top priority. A couple has to be friends and lovers first all through their married years, no matter how old they are. Parenthood should not be allowed to push back this focus. Spending exclusive time together has to be scheduled as a mustdo. In fact, plan not just moments of togetherness, but also loving gestures, words and care; after a time, they become a natural part of life.

Having fun together, being loving and caring and large hearted enough to forgive and care again makes all the difference. Staying balanced in your relationship is of utmost importance. Fighting is normal, but one needs to know where to draw the line so as not to irrevocably hurt the other. We all know when we have overstepped; if you have done so, apologise and make up immediately. When you see your partner in an aggressive and unreasonable mood, learn to step back rather than let fly, and teach your partner to do likewise. Much like the foxtrot, as one advances, the other retreats, while still hanging on lovingly to each other — and that creates the perfect rhythm that the dance of matrimony requires.