Move over flirting, it’s time to be the seductress if you want to infuse some spark in your existing relationship

Not having sex on a regular basis can kill a relationship. Keep these tips handy and add some spark in your sex life...

if you want to infuse some spark in your existing relationship, here are some perfect tips to follow. Be the perfect temptress!

Move over flirting, it’s time to be the seductress this Valentine’s Day. Flirting is when you pay so much attention to someone that he feels immensely attracted to you and wants to be around you. Seduction is an art and entails taking the relationship to the next level. Here are some simple tricks!

Know your strengths

It’s easiest to seduce a man when you are at ease with yourself. Double check your looks, hair, make-up to feel confidant and happy. It is next to impossible to seduce someone when you are not convinced with yourself.

Make them feel special

This is the ultimate seduction tip. Everyone wants to feel special and if you give them the required attention, they will be ready to swoon all over you. Remember, it should be subtle and smart. Pretend you want to know more about the person and show a lot of spark. Don’t be over-bearing and don’t compliment too often. And if you are in a relationship, make your man feel pampered and loved. Try to know him more, no matter how long you have been together.

Grooming is must

Take good care of your skin and hair. Instead of spending too much on make-up products, spend more time treating your hair with hair massages and spas and nourish your skin with an expensive lotion that keeps it buttery soft and shining. Also, make pedicure and manicure a part of your beauty ritual. And when you go for the kill, make sure your make up is subtle. Dab on a pleasant perfume behind your ears, neck and cleavage to feel sensuous.

Wear the right clothes, accessories

Every woman has a dress that makes her feel sexy. If you don’t have one yet, head straight to the store. This is not it – also wear sexy inner wear, stilettos and have the right accessories to accentuate your body parts. It’s important to look fashionable and sexy. Even if you have been in a relationship for some while, try on something erotic and sensuous to take your man by surprise.

Don’t seem desperate

Make sure you don’t make it obvious to him that you are interested. Don’t chase him too hard to turn him off. Make yourself attractive by looking gorgeous and by making the right moves. Also, make sure you don’t flaunt too much male attention as a tool to seem wanted. It can chase him away.

Keep an air of mystery

Let him think (and feel) that there is a possibility of sexual intimacy between the two of you. Irrespective of what girls might think about true love and attraction, for men, sexual intimacy is the only high point of a relationship. Do not be overtly sexual or threatening or you might scare him off. Have the perfect balance of sensuality and control and you will sweep him off his feet.

perfect balance of sensuality and control and you will sweep him off his feet.

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Schedule sex
To ensure sex doesn’t fall off the priority chart, decide in advance when to make love. Then, just do it! It may sound unromantic, but it’s better to have a quickie session than none at all.

Be appreciative
Showing appreciation regularly not only makes you feel better about yourself, it gives a romantic boost to your relationship. It takes you back in time, when you spent time appreciating and adoring your partner.

Share housework
Housework can be a source of niggling arguments. So divide the jobs, and together work out who does what and when. This cuts out resentment – one of the single biggest reasons why women stop wanting sex.

Bedroom spunk
De-clutter the bedroom. Make the bed look inviting, use scented candles and put up pictures of just the two of you. Ban laptops, TV and everything work related.

Have a good argument
Voicing a disagreement prevents any resentment from building up, but a blame game is a no-no. Once this is done, move on and keep the past where it belongs!

Go dancing
Just turn on some music and dance. Dancing flushes the human system with dopamine, which means you feel happier and the happiness is further carried to the bedroom.

You may just be whispering into your girlfriend's ear and, surprisingly, find her sighing in ecstasy... your gal may be equally surprised when you get ready for action as she caresses your inner thighs .

Welcome to the special world of pleasure zones. Let's face it, everyone has a button to push, and if you correctly explore these erotic spots in your body, it can assure you and your lover of a memorable sexual high.

"Many of us love to believe that it's only women who possess dozens of pleasure zones which cause excitement when touched, while men just possess one. But the truth is that most men become excited when their partner pays attention to certain special spots beyond the obvious ones. The sensory tips present in these areas are sexually aroused by mere touch, caressing or even fondling. You may not even know where these spots are, but do not fret, for that just makes finding them all the more desirable for both of you," says Vrinda Vohra, a Delhi-based relationship counsellor.

As curiosity is part of our genetic makeup, most men and women remain curious as to what turns their partners on. Which spot can we touch to drive them absolutely crazy? Well then, today's your lucky day because we bring you nine unconventional moan zones...

Pleasure Zone 1 - Luscious lips

Kissing on the lips is often considered as an emblem of affection, symbol of sexual consent and foundation of foreplay; little do people realise that this first step can make or mar a much-planned sex session. "Yes, it's true. If you know how to maneuver your partner by kissing, sucking and biting their lips, it is very possible that this kiss will lead to a lot more than you expected," says 27-year-old Palak Burman

Kissing, licking and nibbling the lips has an equally heady effect on women, as on men. Dr Vrinda gives some tips, "Use your lips, your tongue and your teeth to play with your partner's top and bottom lip and kiss him/her with complete passion. The funda is that don't just kiss the lips - devour them! Experiment and find out just how serious of a zone one's lipPleasure Zone 2 - Hairline, forehead and eyelids
Many erogenous zones in men and boys are best activated when the body is completely relaxed. When the head, forehead and eye area are stoked in the right way, they trigger the most amazing feelings. The area above and on the eyelid possesses a great concentration of nerves, and giving a gentle massage along the arch of the eyebrow and onto the temple is a great way to start foreplay.

"Remember that a gentle head massage can do wonders, much more than any foreplay act. Also, the spot between the outer corner of the eye and the cheekbone is very sensitive. Start with placing passionate kisses on that zone and continue wandering your lips or breathing all over your lover's face, concentrating on these zones," explains sexologist Jayanti Mishr.

Highlighting the importance of mental relaxation, Vrinda adds, "Each person's reaction to arousing methods depends entirely on his/her physical and mental makeup at the time of the sexual act. Stimulation of the head and face zones has more to do with cerebral arousal than physical excitement."