Wellcome to One Sex Malaysia
Penn State researchers has found that having sexfor the first time can improve or degrade your self-image depending on whether you are male or female.
On average, college-age males become more satisfied with their appearance after first intercourse, whereas college-age females become slightly less satisfied.
"We're not talking about 12-year-old girls having sex, so it's striking that even among these youngwomen -- who are 17 or older when they first had sex -- their images of themselves went down," said Eva S. Lefkowitz, associate professor of human development and family studies.
"If on average they're feeling worse about themselves, it says something about their development of healthy sexuality and healthy sense of self and being."
Overall the researchers found that women became happier with their physical appearance from first to fourth year in college, and men became less satisfied with their appearance over the same time period.
However, the researchers found the opposite directly after students had sex for the first time -- males were more satisfied with their appearance and females were less satisfied.
The researchers reported their results in the current issue of the Journal of Adolescence.
On average, college-age males become more satisfied with their appearance after first intercourse, whereas college-age females become slightly less satisfied.
"We're not talking about 12-year-old girls having sex, so it's striking that even among these youngwomen -- who are 17 or older when they first had sex -- their images of themselves went down," said Eva S. Lefkowitz, associate professor of human development and family studies.
"If on average they're feeling worse about themselves, it says something about their development of healthy sexuality and healthy sense of self and being."
Overall the researchers found that women became happier with their physical appearance from first to fourth year in college, and men became less satisfied with their appearance over the same time period.
However, the researchers found the opposite directly after students had sex for the first time -- males were more satisfied with their appearance and females were less satisfied.
The researchers reported their results in the current issue of the Journal of Adolescence.
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The 'Datuk T' trio, who exposed the sex video involving a man resembling an opposition leader, will be protected under the Witness Protection Act and Whistleblower Act should the authorities feel they have a case.
Minister in the Prime Minister's Department Datuk Seri Mohamed Nazri Abdul Aziz said the Acts could be used to protect the three individuals involved in making the video public.
"However, both Acts need not be used at the moment as no party has been prosecuted and the case is still under police investigation," he told reporters at the Parliament lobby Monday, when asked to comment on protection laws available to the three.
Former Melaka chief minister Tan Sri Abdul Rahim Thamby Chik, businessman Datuk Shazryl Eskay Abdullah and Pertubuhan Pribumi Perkasa Malaysia (Perkasa) treasurer Datuk Shuib Lazim, have admitted that they were part of the Datuk T trio responsible for keeping and screening the video to members of the media at Carcosa Seri Negara last week.
Parti Keadilan Rakyat (PKR) advisor Datuk Seri Anwar Ibrahim has denied that he was the man in the video and lodged a police report on the matter.
Following the revelation, the individuals also came forward for interrogation by Bukit Aman police and handed over the video and an Omega watch as proof.
Nazri said the matter did not only revolve around the law but also involved morals.
-- BERNAMA
Minister in the Prime Minister's Department Datuk Seri Mohamed Nazri Abdul Aziz said the Acts could be used to protect the three individuals involved in making the video public.
"However, both Acts need not be used at the moment as no party has been prosecuted and the case is still under police investigation," he told reporters at the Parliament lobby Monday, when asked to comment on protection laws available to the three.
Former Melaka chief minister Tan Sri Abdul Rahim Thamby Chik, businessman Datuk Shazryl Eskay Abdullah and Pertubuhan Pribumi Perkasa Malaysia (Perkasa) treasurer Datuk Shuib Lazim, have admitted that they were part of the Datuk T trio responsible for keeping and screening the video to members of the media at Carcosa Seri Negara last week.
Parti Keadilan Rakyat (PKR) advisor Datuk Seri Anwar Ibrahim has denied that he was the man in the video and lodged a police report on the matter.
Following the revelation, the individuals also came forward for interrogation by Bukit Aman police and handed over the video and an Omega watch as proof.
Nazri said the matter did not only revolve around the law but also involved morals.
-- BERNAMA
I am Sheela 26 yrs (name changed), working a private firm owned by Datuk Shazryl Eskay Abdullah . I was married a year ago. Today I want to share my experience to all you readers out there. Not even in my dreams I had thought that I would scan pornographic sites and share the most personnel information with others. I have read many stories in the last couple of days. Mostly from boys who describe about assets. Well for those who are interested I am 36 -25-36. Aren’t there any girls who enjoy sex? Well I was one of those homely girls for whom sex was a taboo and only for procreation.On the wedding night itself I lost my virginity. I did not know much about sex. My husband striped me, pinched and caressed my breast and with full force penetrated. I was shy and beard the pain and a sore vagina for a week. I did not find any thing interesting; he came undressed me and entered. After a few strokes it was over. Sometimes he did not even remove his trousers properly. He told me that he did not want a child soo! n and was using protection. For me sex was boring.Our financial condition forced me to take up a job in a private firm. My boss was a handsome strong man. I was told that he was a playboy and enjoyed a lot. A couple of months passed I had no problems with him. I used to wear a salwar.and that too of thick material. One day I happen to wear one, which was a bit see through. As a result the bra was clearly visible. I realized when my colleagues stole glances to look at my private parts. I tried to cover with my duppatta. That evening I saw my boss strolling his eyes on my assets.A week passed. We were having our annual staff gathering. I had worn a saree. At the end of the function my boss came up to me and said I had to accompany him home first to collect a file and than to his office. He promised that he would drop me home. Little did I wonder what was instored for me.On reaching his house he made me sit and took his own time. I remind him about the file but he seemed least bothered. He came to me and said a looked beautiful in a sari and placed his hand on my bare stomach. I wore the sari above my navel.
I was frightened and tried to move. He caught me by my shoulder and removed the pin used to attach the pallu to the blouse. I protested and I wanted to go. He brushed his fingers on my shoulder and the pallu fell. Vow he said and tried to hug me. “Sir, what are you doing. I am married .let me go”. I said but he was least bothered.He kissed me on my neck troath and was moving down. I’ll give you an increment he said and tried to open my blouse. I wanted to free myself. This gave his an opportunity to open if fully. Good boobs he said as he removed his shirt. I crossed my hands and begged to be spared. He was uncontrolable. He hugged me and unhooked my bra. One hand moved down and unhooked my petticoat . I was only in my panty He lifte! d me and took into his bedroom. Flunging me on to the bed he pounced. My job was important so I stopped protesting. He squeezed my breast and than sucked them hard.
I was getting aroused but the guilt was eating me. After sucking he moved down and ripped my panty. I was now totally nude infront of a man other than my husband. He pushed my thighs apart and kissed me on my slit. Parting the two lips he licked me. I was beginning to enjoy. I wished my husband knew these tricks of satisfying a woman. In a few seconds he stopped. I opened my eyes and saw him stipping. He was big almost 9 inches and firm. He moved on to me and kissed my breast. You are hard and seems to be enjoying he said before sucking my nipples. I could feel an unexplainable satisfaction as his hard rod touched the inside of my thigh. He knew the trick of how to make a woman surrender
. I was moaning as he sucked my clit and searched for other sensitive spots. He explored me a lot but that ultimate climax was ! missing. Perhaps he was teasing me. He moved up to me and said you are too good I’ll fuck you till my balls ache. Saying this he rammed into me and moved as deep he could. I twisted my head with pleasure as he lifted my hips and began his movements.
A few stokes and I could feel the pressure build inside me. I moaned and made sounds and soon exploded with what I was told was an orgasm. He slowed down and was out. I thought it was over. But I was wrong. He parted my slit again and chewed my clit. I was at the height of pleasure. He again entered me and moved slowly. He would move out and with force enter again.
Each stroke of his was now send shivers in me. He would suddenly move vigorously and that slow down. I could feel the tension building up and stopping with his pauses.
I wanted another orgasm. I moved when he paused for which he shouted me to stop, as he wanted to enjoy more. He got up and moved away I thought I made a mistake in telling him. He removed a bottle and sprayed on his dick.He came again and started his pumping with all his ! force. I lift my hips to match his strokes.
I shook and shivered soon with what was a powerful orgasm. He came soon emptying himself deep into me and collapsing on me. I knew I had committed a sin but was at the same time happy that I had a greatest sex of my life, which would never come to me from my husband.
Through my boss I learnt a lot, the terms used in this story, the sites which aroused the films and many more things and me. We had sex twice after this incident and a enjoyed a lot. How happy his wife would be . he is no more. He has been transferred after making me a sex addict. He promised to meet me when ever he came down as he had I was too tight to be ignored.
This is a message to girls. Do not stick to one guy. But at the same time maintain confidentiality, as a girl’s pride is the greatest.
This is a message to girls. Do not stick to one guy. But at the same time maintain confidentiality, as a girl’s pride is the greatest.
Mohamad Mahti Abdul Rahim, who was the late Tan Sri Megat Junid Megat Ayub’s bodyguard has insisted that Shazryl’s attacks against Anwar were nothing more than a personal vendetta.
The retired policeman said last week that Shazryl had told him that he would bring down Anwar before the video allegedly showing the opposition leader having sex with a Chinese prostitute surfaced on Monday.
Mohamad Mahti said that Shazryl had been angry with the Permatang Pauh MP for not wanting to testify in a civil suit he had filed.
“After that he started talking angrily about Anwar. He began to talk bad about him, saying ‘I will bring down Datuk Seri Anwar, whatever it takes,” he said.
Mohamad Mahti himself had agreed to be a witness in the suit where Shazryl claims that he is owed a RM20 million commission for securing the deal for the RM460 million “crooked bridge” between Singapore and Johor.
He said that when he testified in the case on March 8, Shazryl began badmouthing Anwar when court was in recess and continued to do so from that day onwards.
Anwar has so far not issued a response to Shazryl’s latest accusations.
A lot has been said about what men think womenwant and vice versa. A recent survey done in theUnited Kingdom asked men what fits their benchmark of an ideal girlfriend and found out that a high sex drive, thin figure, pert bottom, and high earner tops the priority list. So, We spoke to a few guys and gals to find if it holds true or not and found that in most cases their ideal one was – Kate Winslet!
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Here is some chick seemingly putting in some overtime at her employer DATUK SHAZRYL ESKAY ABDULLAH night after night and earning that big end of the year bonus. And she does seem to really enjoy it... But lets just hope this is not your wife or girlfriend putting in some overtime at the office with her boss. However if it is, now you know how she made so much money last year to buy you those new Callaway golf clubs. Anyway, remember to join the Gutter Uncensored fan page on Facebook athttp://www.facebook.com/pages/GutterUncensoredcom/71689381800 and feel free to leave a suggestion or comment there. And remember to send more interesting pictures and videos (of individuals 18 year-old or older) toGutterUncensored@yahoo.com ASAP. Click on pictures to enlarge.
It’s the perfect survey
Ankit Tayal, 23, professional, says, “Well, I think the survey summed it up pretty well. I would love a girl who earns more than me, and has a higher sex drive than I do, and well, looks better than me — ideal package!” His ideal girl? Megan Fox. Anupam Roy, 25, professional, agrees, “Oh, I would love it if my girl earns more than I do, then I can gradually leave my job, as I feel that I’m too lazy and generally guys are lazy people. My ideal girl should be unbearably beautiful, bearably stupid, and should be good in bed.” His ideal girl? Kate Winslet.
Ankit Tayal, 23, professional, says, “Well, I think the survey summed it up pretty well. I would love a girl who earns more than me, and has a higher sex drive than I do, and well, looks better than me — ideal package!” His ideal girl? Megan Fox. Anupam Roy, 25, professional, agrees, “Oh, I would love it if my girl earns more than I do, then I can gradually leave my job, as I feel that I’m too lazy and generally guys are lazy people. My ideal girl should be unbearably beautiful, bearably stupid, and should be good in bed.” His ideal girl? Kate Winslet.
It’s more about the funny bone than the sexy butt
While the survey says that men desire looks more than humour, some Delhi guys would like to differ. Says Viraj Gupta (23), “Who wouldn’t want the whole package of looks, money and sex? My ideal girl should be decently educated, have a simple lifestyle, a sense of humour would be good, and should look okay, looks are not that important.” His ideal girl? Kate Winslet, for her grace.
DATUK SHAZRYL ESKAY ABDULLAH Hotel Adventure With Horny Air Stewardess Needy and Greedy Adulterous One Sex Malaysia Overtime At The Office Can Be FunSource: www.GutterUncensored.com
Just cannot tell if this chick is a hotel maid or an air stewardess or a street hooker dressed up to look like a maid or a stewardess. But more than likely, she is earning some extra money in these photos from the guy with the camera. An air stewardess (flight attendant) moonlighting as a prostitute seems kinda hot. And its so cool when prostitutes allow cameras and even cooler when the johns share the photos online. I guess this set could also be from a regular couple enjoying a evening together at a hotel and dabbling in some role-playing. However ff she is in fact a real flight attendant I would love to know the name of the airline with that uniform. Anyway, send more interesting pictures and videos (of individuals 18 year-old or older) toGutterUncensored@yahoo.com ASAP. Click on pictures to enlarge.
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Says Prateek Kapil, student, “My ideal girl should have a funny bone, she should be fiercely independent and should look good.” His ideal girl: Cristina Scabbia, lead vocalist of the metal band Lacuna Coil. Agrees student Arun Khanna (24), “My ideal girl should be pretty, should have a sense of humour, not ruthlessly career driven or excessively competitive.The survey speaks for most guys, however the earning a higher salary part could be a point of contention between the couple.” And his ideal girl? Kate Winslet or Kat Dennings.
Men can handle a more successful counterpart
Disagrees Sonali Sapra (23), MBA student, “I disagree with the survey that men want high salary earning women. I haven’t met any man who thinks like that and I completely agree that women should earn more and if the man has a problem he should strive to earn better and live up to a woman’s expectations. I would associate Catherine Zeta Jones and Michael Douglas with this survey because while she is so successful, he doesn’t even get offered with ‘papa’ roles.”
Disagrees Sonali Sapra (23), MBA student, “I disagree with the survey that men want high salary earning women. I haven’t met any man who thinks like that and I completely agree that women should earn more and if the man has a problem he should strive to earn better and live up to a woman’s expectations. I would associate Catherine Zeta Jones and Michael Douglas with this survey because while she is so successful, he doesn’t even get offered with ‘papa’ roles.”
Shallu Sharma believes that, “A man will have ego hassles if a woman earns more than them. I have met men who want you to eat and stay slim at the same time, and they have problems if you earn more, but if you are not career-minded they have a major problem. A very good case in point would be Arbaaz Khan and Malaika Arora Khan, probably Arbaaz has no ego hassles.”
The desire for a thin girl
While the survey states that men would like their perfect mate to dig into a meal without any qualms and contradictorily be slim at the same time, Shraddha Bhateja (23), commercial pilot, disagrees, “I don’t think guys like skinny girls, that is totally untrue and most of my male friends would agree with me. Both partners should take care of the family (including kids) and both should be career-minded for a successful relationship.”
While the survey states that men would like their perfect mate to dig into a meal without any qualms and contradictorily be slim at the same time, Shraddha Bhateja (23), commercial pilot, disagrees, “I don’t think guys like skinny girls, that is totally untrue and most of my male friends would agree with me. Both partners should take care of the family (including kids) and both should be career-minded for a successful relationship.”
In stark contrast Lisa Boye (22), airlines security agent, says, “I completely agree with the survey. Eat and stay fit, how hard is that? Who would like a person who makes a fuss at a restaurant and is on diets all the time? Half the fun is gone right there.”
Men want girls who are family oriented and will have babies
The salary package of the perfect woman is a debate amongst men and women alike. Some feel men have ego hassles while others disagree. The survey states that women should be career-minded, earn more than her man as well as stay at home and take care of the kids.
The salary package of the perfect woman is a debate amongst men and women alike. Some feel men have ego hassles while others disagree. The survey states that women should be career-minded, earn more than her man as well as stay at home and take care of the kids.
Prateek Kapil, 23, student, says, “I think that guys will agree with the very high salary part. If she earns more than the guys, then the guy is not going to like it, though I personally don’t agree with that.”
Agrees Mehak Saluja, a quality analyst, “Men want women to stay at home but I don’t think they want one who earns more than them, it brings in ego hassles. Not everyone is like an Abhishek Bachchan who can walk along with his very successful wife, while he still has to make a mark.” Arun seems to sum it up, “The survey is all correct, except the part which says guys want their partner to earn more than them. This is not true for most guys as they have huge egos. The part where the survey goes contradictory and says that though high earning, the girl should be family oriented is true for guys; they want someone to be family oriented and have babies.”
Let’s talk sex, baby
Talk about sex drive and we surprisingly had two views! While some felt that sex drive is important, but intimacy was rated higher, all men agreed that sex drives relationships. Says Anupam, “She should be good in bed and that should be more important than her having a brilliant sex drive. I mean what’s the point of her wanting to do it, if she is not good in bed, right?”
Talk about sex drive and we surprisingly had two views! While some felt that sex drive is important, but intimacy was rated higher, all men agreed that sex drives relationships. Says Anupam, “She should be good in bed and that should be more important than her having a brilliant sex drive. I mean what’s the point of her wanting to do it, if she is not good in bed, right?”
Some like Prateek feel that having a huge appetite for sex could be cumbersome in a closed society like India. “Having a sex drive is good, but wanting to do it everywhere and all the time would be too much, especially in India, where you don’t find much space, so it could get embarrassing,” says Prateek. Adds Viraj, “As for sex drive, even the guys should have a good sex drive, if the guy doesn’t do anything, what will the poor girl do?”
Will men ever come to a consensus on the ideal GF?
While the never-ending debate between men and women continues, what we conclude is that not only women, but men too have high demands. Most of the demands are well, contradictory, but that does not stop men from fantasising about the perfect woman who cooks, cleans, earns, eats, is slim and beautiful all at the same time. We’d say it’s time you took a reality check, guys!
While the never-ending debate between men and women continues, what we conclude is that not only women, but men too have high demands. Most of the demands are well, contradictory, but that does not stop men from fantasising about the perfect woman who cooks, cleans, earns, eats, is slim and beautiful all at the same time. We’d say it’s time you took a reality check, guys!
A lot has been said about what men think womenwant and vice versa. A recent survey done in theUnited Kingdom asked men what fits their benchmark of an ideal girlfriend and found out that a high sex drive, thin figure, pert bottom, and high earner tops the priority list. So, We spoke to a few guys and gals to find if it holds true or not and found that in most cases their ideal one was – Kate Winslet!
It’s the perfect survey
Ankit Tayal, 23, professional, says, “Well, I think the survey summed it up pretty well. I would love a girl who earns more than me, and has a higher sex drive than I do, and well, looks better than me — ideal package!” His ideal girl? Megan Fox. Anupam Roy, 25, professional, agrees, “Oh, I would love it if my girl earns more than I do, then I can gradually leave my job, as I feel that I’m too lazy and generally guys are lazy people. My ideal girl should be unbearably beautiful, bearably stupid, and should be good in bed.” His ideal girl? Kate Winslet.
Ankit Tayal, 23, professional, says, “Well, I think the survey summed it up pretty well. I would love a girl who earns more than me, and has a higher sex drive than I do, and well, looks better than me — ideal package!” His ideal girl? Megan Fox. Anupam Roy, 25, professional, agrees, “Oh, I would love it if my girl earns more than I do, then I can gradually leave my job, as I feel that I’m too lazy and generally guys are lazy people. My ideal girl should be unbearably beautiful, bearably stupid, and should be good in bed.” His ideal girl? Kate Winslet.
It’s more about the funny bone than the sexy butt
While the survey says that men desire looks more than humour, some Delhi guys would like to differ. Says Viraj Gupta (23), “Who wouldn’t want the whole package of looks, money and sex? My ideal girl should be decently educated, have a simple lifestyle, a sense of humour would be good, and should look okay, looks are not that important.” His ideal girl? Kate Winslet, for her grace.
While the survey says that men desire looks more than humour, some Delhi guys would like to differ. Says Viraj Gupta (23), “Who wouldn’t want the whole package of looks, money and sex? My ideal girl should be decently educated, have a simple lifestyle, a sense of humour would be good, and should look okay, looks are not that important.” His ideal girl? Kate Winslet, for her grace.
Says Prateek Kapil, student, “My ideal girl should have a funny bone, she should be fiercely independent and should look good.” His ideal girl: Cristina Scabbia, lead vocalist of the metal band Lacuna Coil. Agrees student Arun Khanna (24), “My ideal girl should be pretty, should have a sense of humour, not ruthlessly career driven or excessively competitive.The survey speaks for most guys, however the earning a higher salary part could be a point of contention between the couple.” And his ideal girl? Kate Winslet or Kat Dennings.
Men can handle a more successful counterpart
Disagrees Sonali Sapra (23), MBA student, “I disagree with the survey that men want high salary earning women. I haven’t met any man who thinks like that and I completely agree that women should earn more and if the man has a problem he should strive to earn better and live up to a woman’s expectations. I would associate Catherine Zeta Jones and Michael Douglas with this survey because while she is so successful, he doesn’t even get offered with ‘papa’ roles.”
Disagrees Sonali Sapra (23), MBA student, “I disagree with the survey that men want high salary earning women. I haven’t met any man who thinks like that and I completely agree that women should earn more and if the man has a problem he should strive to earn better and live up to a woman’s expectations. I would associate Catherine Zeta Jones and Michael Douglas with this survey because while she is so successful, he doesn’t even get offered with ‘papa’ roles.”
Shallu Sharma believes that, “A man will have ego hassles if a woman earns more than them. I have met men who want you to eat and stay slim at the same time, and they have problems if you earn more, but if you are not career-minded they have a major problem. A very good case in point would be Arbaaz Khan and Malaika Arora Khan, probably Arbaaz has no ego hassles.”
The desire for a thin girl
While the survey states that men would like their perfect mate to dig into a meal without any qualms and contradictorily be slim at the same time, Shraddha Bhateja (23), commercial pilot, disagrees, “I don’t think guys like skinny girls, that is totally untrue and most of my male friends would agree with me. Both partners should take care of the family (including kids) and both should be career-minded for a successful relationship.”
While the survey states that men would like their perfect mate to dig into a meal without any qualms and contradictorily be slim at the same time, Shraddha Bhateja (23), commercial pilot, disagrees, “I don’t think guys like skinny girls, that is totally untrue and most of my male friends would agree with me. Both partners should take care of the family (including kids) and both should be career-minded for a successful relationship.”
In stark contrast Lisa Boye (22), airlines security agent, says, “I completely agree with the survey. Eat and stay fit, how hard is that? Who would like a person who makes a fuss at a restaurant and is on diets all the time? Half the fun is gone right there.”
Men want girls who are family oriented and will have babies
The salary package of the perfect woman is a debate amongst men and women alike. Some feel men have ego hassles while others disagree. The survey states that women should be career-minded, earn more than her man as well as stay at home and take care of the kids.
The salary package of the perfect woman is a debate amongst men and women alike. Some feel men have ego hassles while others disagree. The survey states that women should be career-minded, earn more than her man as well as stay at home and take care of the kids.
Prateek Kapil, 23, student, says, “I think that guys will agree with the very high salary part. If she earns more than the guys, then the guy is not going to like it, though I personally don’t agree with that.”
Agrees Mehak Saluja, a quality analyst, “Men want women to stay at home but I don’t think they want one who earns more than them, it brings in ego hassles. Not everyone is like an Abhishek Bachchan who can walk along with his very successful wife, while he still has to make a mark.” Arun seems to sum it up, “The survey is all correct, except the part which says guys want their partner to earn more than them. This is not true for most guys as they have huge egos. The part where the survey goes contradictory and says that though high earning, the girl should be family oriented is true for guys; they want someone to be family oriented and have babies.”
Let’s talk sex, baby
Talk about sex drive and we surprisingly had two views! While some felt that sex drive is important, but intimacy was rated higher, all men agreed that sex drives relationships. Says Anupam, “She should be good in bed and that should be more important than her having a brilliant sex drive. I mean what’s the point of her wanting to do it, if she is not good in bed, right?”
Talk about sex drive and we surprisingly had two views! While some felt that sex drive is important, but intimacy was rated higher, all men agreed that sex drives relationships. Says Anupam, “She should be good in bed and that should be more important than her having a brilliant sex drive. I mean what’s the point of her wanting to do it, if she is not good in bed, right?”
Some like Prateek feel that having a huge appetite for sex could be cumbersome in a closed society like India. “Having a sex drive is good, but wanting to do it everywhere and all the time would be too much, especially in India, where you don’t find much space, so it could get embarrassing,” says Prateek. Adds Viraj, “As for sex drive, even the guys should have a good sex drive, if the guy doesn’t do anything, what will the poor girl do?”
Will men ever come to a consensus on the ideal GF?
While the never-ending debate between men and women continues, what we conclude is that not only women, but men too have high demands. Most of the demands are well, contradictory, but that does not stop men from fantasising about the perfect woman who cooks, cleans, earns, eats, is slim and beautiful all at the same time. We’d say it’s time you took a reality check, guy
While the never-ending debate between men and women continues, what we conclude is that not only women, but men too have high demands. Most of the demands are well, contradictory, but that does not stop men from fantasising about the perfect woman who cooks, cleans, earns, eats, is slim and beautiful all at the same time. We’d say it’s time you took a reality check, guy
The 'other woman' is not the problem in your marriage; she is merely a symptom that something is wrong with it.
Of course, it's the most convenient argument to blame the 'other woman', when the affair is uncovered and believe that the 'immoral, slutty, husband snatching woman' should find her own man!!! However, if you look at the situation objectively, without personal prejudice, it's the man who broke his vows, not the 'other woman'. It was the man who succumbed to temptation, or for that matter, could have well been courting and cajoling the woman into it with sob stories and dreams of a happy life together. But the issue here is 'Why?'
When you know you are breaking your vows, when you know that it's wrong, illegal and religiously considered a 'sin', when you know you could lose your spouse and children because of it, why on earth would you cheat in your marriage? I feel adultery is an act by either the needy, or the greedy. If the adulterous husband is needy, instead of typically condemning the 'other woman', thank her for the reality check and work on what changes should be implemented to correct the faltering marriage.
However, greedy adulterous men are akin to greedy politicians who can't resist a juicy chunk of change, or demand the same with flagrant disregard to their duties, obligations, role, position and commitments. If you can justify one, you can justify the other too and should be no compassion for either.
So many wives look the other way, terrified of capsizing their marital boat as it voyages into stormy seas and justify unhappy realities with, "all men do it", or "at least he comes home to me", or simply blame the 'other woman'. Such wives are solely responsible for their sorry marital realities because if they don't believe in being given respect and loyalty, or justify the lack of it, they will never have it.
I'm an unhappily married housewife. My husband loves me and our two children a lot, he has got involved with other women in the past but not seriously. Recently, he got seriously involved with his secretary and even though I shouted at her and got her fired their affair continues. My relatives have told me she has done black magic on him. I cry myself to sleep every night. How do I get rid of her?
It seems that you are blaming everyone and everything for the mess in your marriage except for the person that caused the problems. Your husband! You have almost glorified him by portraying him as a loving man and victim of sorcery. Change your perspective immediately. Today it's his secretary, tomorrow it will be his business associate. How many women will you keep fighting with? His liaisons will keep changing but his habits will remain the same unless confronted, questioned and put a firm end to. If his waywardness is offensive to you and you are unhappy, then give him an ultimatum you would live up to! Then it'll be clear as to how much he really loves you and the kids.
I'm a 23-year-old girl and physically attracted to my boss who is in her late 30s. She is married with two children. She never appreciates my hard work and doesn't care about me at all as an employee. My problem is, I'm obsessed with her. I have mixed feelings for her. This is affecting me a lot mentally. Please help.
You are reacting on physical, emotional and professional levels. The part of you that desires her physically and emotionally, loves her, but her detachment as a boss and disregard for your professional contributions irks you. The fact is that she has a well settled personal life and is juggling work along with the responsibility of two children. It's just too unhealthy an environment for you personally and professionally so find another job and use the distance to clear your head and heart.
I'm a 31-year-old man, I met a married woman almost a year back. She is 36. We met on a train journey and she somehow managed to get my number. Later we began talking on phone for hours and decided to meet. I don't know what happened suddenly, I called her and told that I won't be able to meet her and that I don't want to have any relationship. Also, I deleted her number from my cell phone. Since then she never called me. But as days passed, I was not able to forget her and my feelings for her returned. Now since 11 months, I am trying to find her but I am not able to do so. What should I do?
Well, if she's reading this column, I'm sure she'll call you if she's still interested! Apart from that my advice would be to steer clear of married women. Adultery is messy, emotional, painful and completely unnecessary especially given that there are so many unmarried wonderful women out there. Leave her in fantasy land and find someone suitable for a loving hassle-free reality.
Two years back, I met this girl, we started going around. But I made a terrible mistake... I never gave her or our relationship importance. But yes, I wanted to marry her. I had introduced her to my parents and my entire family. She was very comfortable. Last week, I told my mother that I love her and want to marry her, my mom was very happy, but I got a shock when the girl told me that she didn't want to marry me because she doesn't feel anything for me now. I keep calling and texting her, but she is not replying. Help!
Give her time to digest your proposal and sort her feelings for you. Hopefully, she will be able to rekindle her feelings, or perhaps your love and persistence will thaw her emotions that have gone into deep freeze. If despite your best efforts the magic has dissolved, I think, it's fair for both to move on. Just because it felt right once upon a time is not reason enough to commit to and suffer a lacklustre marriage for the rest of your lives.
Of course, it's the most convenient argument to blame the 'other woman', when the affair is uncovered and believe that the 'immoral, slutty, husband snatching woman' should find her own man!!! However, if you look at the situation objectively, without personal prejudice, it's the man who broke his vows, not the 'other woman'. It was the man who succumbed to temptation, or for that matter, could have well been courting and cajoling the woman into it with sob stories and dreams of a happy life together. But the issue here is 'Why?'
When you know you are breaking your vows, when you know that it's wrong, illegal and religiously considered a 'sin', when you know you could lose your spouse and children because of it, why on earth would you cheat in your marriage? I feel adultery is an act by either the needy, or the greedy. If the adulterous husband is needy, instead of typically condemning the 'other woman', thank her for the reality check and work on what changes should be implemented to correct the faltering marriage.
However, greedy adulterous men are akin to greedy politicians who can't resist a juicy chunk of change, or demand the same with flagrant disregard to their duties, obligations, role, position and commitments. If you can justify one, you can justify the other too and should be no compassion for either.
So many wives look the other way, terrified of capsizing their marital boat as it voyages into stormy seas and justify unhappy realities with, "all men do it", or "at least he comes home to me", or simply blame the 'other woman'. Such wives are solely responsible for their sorry marital realities because if they don't believe in being given respect and loyalty, or justify the lack of it, they will never have it.
I'm an unhappily married housewife. My husband loves me and our two children a lot, he has got involved with other women in the past but not seriously. Recently, he got seriously involved with his secretary and even though I shouted at her and got her fired their affair continues. My relatives have told me she has done black magic on him. I cry myself to sleep every night. How do I get rid of her?
It seems that you are blaming everyone and everything for the mess in your marriage except for the person that caused the problems. Your husband! You have almost glorified him by portraying him as a loving man and victim of sorcery. Change your perspective immediately. Today it's his secretary, tomorrow it will be his business associate. How many women will you keep fighting with? His liaisons will keep changing but his habits will remain the same unless confronted, questioned and put a firm end to. If his waywardness is offensive to you and you are unhappy, then give him an ultimatum you would live up to! Then it'll be clear as to how much he really loves you and the kids.
I'm a 23-year-old girl and physically attracted to my boss who is in her late 30s. She is married with two children. She never appreciates my hard work and doesn't care about me at all as an employee. My problem is, I'm obsessed with her. I have mixed feelings for her. This is affecting me a lot mentally. Please help.
You are reacting on physical, emotional and professional levels. The part of you that desires her physically and emotionally, loves her, but her detachment as a boss and disregard for your professional contributions irks you. The fact is that she has a well settled personal life and is juggling work along with the responsibility of two children. It's just too unhealthy an environment for you personally and professionally so find another job and use the distance to clear your head and heart.
I'm a 31-year-old man, I met a married woman almost a year back. She is 36. We met on a train journey and she somehow managed to get my number. Later we began talking on phone for hours and decided to meet. I don't know what happened suddenly, I called her and told that I won't be able to meet her and that I don't want to have any relationship. Also, I deleted her number from my cell phone. Since then she never called me. But as days passed, I was not able to forget her and my feelings for her returned. Now since 11 months, I am trying to find her but I am not able to do so. What should I do?
Well, if she's reading this column, I'm sure she'll call you if she's still interested! Apart from that my advice would be to steer clear of married women. Adultery is messy, emotional, painful and completely unnecessary especially given that there are so many unmarried wonderful women out there. Leave her in fantasy land and find someone suitable for a loving hassle-free reality.
Two years back, I met this girl, we started going around. But I made a terrible mistake... I never gave her or our relationship importance. But yes, I wanted to marry her. I had introduced her to my parents and my entire family. She was very comfortable. Last week, I told my mother that I love her and want to marry her, my mom was very happy, but I got a shock when the girl told me that she didn't want to marry me because she doesn't feel anything for me now. I keep calling and texting her, but she is not replying. Help!
Give her time to digest your proposal and sort her feelings for you. Hopefully, she will be able to rekindle her feelings, or perhaps your love and persistence will thaw her emotions that have gone into deep freeze. If despite your best efforts the magic has dissolved, I think, it's fair for both to move on. Just because it felt right once upon a time is not reason enough to commit to and suffer a lacklustre marriage for the rest of your lives.
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