Day one: gear-up
Today is the day for gaining some perspective and clarity. Start getting emotionally ready to handle the challenges that will surely be faced in the days and weeks, and perhaps months ahead. Take some personal time for reflective contemplation, meditation, and or prayer.
Luka and the Fire of Life: A Novel
Day one: gear-up
Today is the day for gaining some perspective and clarity. Start getting emotionally ready to handle the challenges that will surely be faced in the days and weeks, and perhaps months ahead. Take some personal time for reflective contemplation, meditation, and or prayer.Day two: launch
Although going out and "facing the world" may seem to overwhelming right now, there are plenty of foundational tasks, which can be accomplish via telephone or Internet. Make 5 phone calls today. Call one: physician. Make an appointment for a pre-divorce physical. This action is suggested for three reasons. First and foremost you want to be at your physical best. Secondly, many people who are experiencing personal turmoil neglect their health; get an accurate picture of your current health. Finally, even if intimacy ceased years ago, many sexually transmitted diseases are asymptomatic and may go undetected for years. Call two; credit card companies. Request accounts be flagged to detect unusual, questionable charges. Be vigilant in protecting your financial and credit future. Remember, debt racked up on joint accounts by one spouse is the legal liability of both. Lack of knowledge of the debt does not excuse legal liability to pay. Call three; financial institutions. Find out what is required to do to protect joint funds and investment accounts. Be proactive in protecting joint and individual assets. Call four; emotional support person. This may be a therapist, life coach, clergy person, or even a best friend or mother. Make an appointment to speak with them as soon as possible. Finally, you are probably not in the mood to cook, but need to eat. Call five; the best pizza, Chinese or gourmet food delivery place in town. Order a fabulous meal, even if it is breaks every diet rule.
Day three: survival plan
The divorce process triggers an immediate and drastic change in finances. Today prepare to provide for immediate day- to- day financial support. Figure out how much money is needed to survive during the pendency of the divorce. Create a new household budget. This new budget should not include income streams attributable to the soon- to- be- ex. While alimony and or child support may be awarded, it will not be immediate. Be prepared to survive financially during the period in-between filing and temporary support is ordered.
Day four: draw support circle
Divorce is not going to be easy, and now is the time to reach out to family and friends for help and support. Today figure out the people whose support will help you get through the tough times. This may be an opportunity to start sharing the news of the divorce.
Day five: respite
If you have done all of the work delineated for days one to four, you have accomplished a great deal. Well done, reward yourself. Today take a break from all things divorce.
The Enchantress of Florence: A Novel
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