Experts have said that while women are out-shining men in college and out-earning them at work, they are doing so at the cost of their sexual bargaining power.
The authors of a new book, ''Premarital Sex in America: How Young Americans Meet, Mate and Think About Marrying'', say when it comes to relationships, men are calling all the shots, which means less commitment and more sex.
Researchers Mark Regnerus and Jeremy Uecker of the University of Texas at Austin based their conclusion on data from four national surveys, as well as additional interviews with men and women between the ages of 18 and 23.
They say the cold-hard truth is that women's successes have left them with a small pool of similarly educated and financially stable men.
"It's created an imbalance that tips relationship power in the direction of the men. Instead of men competing for women, today women feel like they must compete for men," Salon.com quoted the authors as stating.
Regnerus was asked about how young women's greater economic freedom has resulted in fewer romantic choices.
"It's not that young educated women don't marry -- in fact they have the highest odds of getting and staying married - it's that if you look at the whole relationship scene out there today, more than ever women feel like they're competing for men," he said.
"In American colleges, 57 per cent of students are women and 43 per cent are men. That's a radical reversal of where we were 30 or 40 years ago."
Presuming that people are attracted to people who are like them educationally, it means looking for secure relationships becomes challenging because the sex ratio is so imbalanced.
The women wind up competing with each other -- not necessarily to marry because they're not interested in marriage at that point -- but they compete with each other to attract men.
Well, sex is the way to get his attention. It's the opposite of a cartel effect where women would say, ''All right, we need to band together and artificially restrict the price of sex and get it high, even if we don't want to, in order to extract things from men," he stated
.
Let your man be the king as you take charge to set the ball rolling for a night full of action.
Remember, more than your technique of seduction, it's your attitude that makes the final cut. What all you really need is to be able to arrest his attention and his body is all yours. You need not be a hot babe to seduce your guy, just try to keep your approach right.
Take the lead
Men love to be dominated in bed. So if not always, then once in a while take up the task of leading the action in bed and initiating the intimacy. If your guy loves to see your wild side then there is no better way than this technique.
Neha Tyagi, a house wife says, "I gave my man a surprise call in office and in a passionate voice I whispered that a sexy surprise awaited him at night at home. Then I left a note at the doorstep which declared, 'beware of the tigress' that I wanted him to find minutes before he stepped into the main doorway. I slipped into some revealing, lacy lingerie and lit up the bedroom using fragrant candles, rose petals and some instrumental music. Already expectant with the hints that I had dropped throughout the day, he entered the bedroom with a lot of expectations. My killing looks, a heady embrace and a wet kiss left him breathless and raring to go. I was pleasantly surprised to see my man enjoy me take the lead even in foreplay as I blind-folded him and seduced him."
Sexual chemistry is a vital element of any healthy relationship and it's not always fair to blame your male companion for not putting in enough efforts and being unadventurous. Sudhanshu Kapoor, a banker says, "Men usually take care of their partner's pleasure, but it should be the same for the fairer sex. If we talk about equality in all spheres of life, what's the problem if we expect our partners to be adventurous in bed?"
Expert Tip: Dr Sameer Parikh, psychiatrist opines, "Most of the men look forward to a women who is a perfect blend of a tigress and a kitten. You have to learn to manipulate the imagination of your man. Men are really fond of women who are self confident seductress, who know what they want and how to get it. The idea is not to reach an orgasm only but to attain a feeling of contentment. That can only be done by taking care of your partner's needs."
A lot of people wonder how Jewish wives manage to raise such spineless husbands. They wonder what these wives do to produce so many slightly pudgy lawyers and milquetoast dentists, what's it like inside the marriage, and whether they could do it, too. Well, I can tell them, because I've done it. Here are some things my husband, Melvin, was never allowed to do: · play poker · play an instrument · have any friends other than the husbands of my friends, with the exception of Harold Kramer, whom none of us can stand. · watch the Jets game, pre-TiVo, when A Walk on the Moon was on, but even today I'd probably win that one, too. · chew with his mouth open · complain about that withering look I give him when he chews with his mouth open · buy any article of clothing without my approval · underwear included · allow his nose hairs to go ungroomed for more than a week · okay, two weeks tops, but more than that he starts to look like a gorilla · bring home any paycheck less than what that schlemiel, my sister's husband, earns · "find himself" · say, "Watch out, kids, it's that time of the month," without serious repercussions. I'm using the term "Jewish wife" loosely. I recently met a super-controlling dictator from Iran (you've seen him on television), and after comparing notes we decided that we were so alike it was bashert I happened to bump into him while I was searching for an analogy, and he was taking surveillance photos in Times Square.
The authors of a new book, ''Premarital Sex in America: How Young Americans Meet, Mate and Think About Marrying'', say when it comes to relationships, men are calling all the shots, which means less commitment and more sex.
Researchers Mark Regnerus and Jeremy Uecker of the University of Texas at Austin based their conclusion on data from four national surveys, as well as additional interviews with men and women between the ages of 18 and 23.
They say the cold-hard truth is that women's successes have left them with a small pool of similarly educated and financially stable men.
"It's created an imbalance that tips relationship power in the direction of the men. Instead of men competing for women, today women feel like they must compete for men," Salon.com quoted the authors as stating.
Regnerus was asked about how young women's greater economic freedom has resulted in fewer romantic choices.
"It's not that young educated women don't marry -- in fact they have the highest odds of getting and staying married - it's that if you look at the whole relationship scene out there today, more than ever women feel like they're competing for men," he said.
"In American colleges, 57 per cent of students are women and 43 per cent are men. That's a radical reversal of where we were 30 or 40 years ago."
Presuming that people are attracted to people who are like them educationally, it means looking for secure relationships becomes challenging because the sex ratio is so imbalanced.
The women wind up competing with each other -- not necessarily to marry because they're not interested in marriage at that point -- but they compete with each other to attract men.
Well, sex is the way to get his attention. It's the opposite of a cartel effect where women would say, ''All right, we need to band together and artificially restrict the price of sex and get it high, even if we don't want to, in order to extract things from men," he stated
.
Let your man be the king as you take charge to set the ball rolling for a night full of action.
Remember, more than your technique of seduction, it's your attitude that makes the final cut. What all you really need is to be able to arrest his attention and his body is all yours. You need not be a hot babe to seduce your guy, just try to keep your approach right.
Take the lead
Men love to be dominated in bed. So if not always, then once in a while take up the task of leading the action in bed and initiating the intimacy. If your guy loves to see your wild side then there is no better way than this technique.
Neha Tyagi, a house wife says, "I gave my man a surprise call in office and in a passionate voice I whispered that a sexy surprise awaited him at night at home. Then I left a note at the doorstep which declared, 'beware of the tigress' that I wanted him to find minutes before he stepped into the main doorway. I slipped into some revealing, lacy lingerie and lit up the bedroom using fragrant candles, rose petals and some instrumental music. Already expectant with the hints that I had dropped throughout the day, he entered the bedroom with a lot of expectations. My killing looks, a heady embrace and a wet kiss left him breathless and raring to go. I was pleasantly surprised to see my man enjoy me take the lead even in foreplay as I blind-folded him and seduced him."
Sexual chemistry is a vital element of any healthy relationship and it's not always fair to blame your male companion for not putting in enough efforts and being unadventurous. Sudhanshu Kapoor, a banker says, "Men usually take care of their partner's pleasure, but it should be the same for the fairer sex. If we talk about equality in all spheres of life, what's the problem if we expect our partners to be adventurous in bed?"
Expert Tip: Dr Sameer Parikh, psychiatrist opines, "Most of the men look forward to a women who is a perfect blend of a tigress and a kitten. You have to learn to manipulate the imagination of your man. Men are really fond of women who are self confident seductress, who know what they want and how to get it. The idea is not to reach an orgasm only but to attain a feeling of contentment. That can only be done by taking care of your partner's needs."
A lot of people wonder how Jewish wives manage to raise such spineless husbands. They wonder what these wives do to produce so many slightly pudgy lawyers and milquetoast dentists, what's it like inside the marriage, and whether they could do it, too. Well, I can tell them, because I've done it. Here are some things my husband, Melvin, was never allowed to do: · play poker · play an instrument · have any friends other than the husbands of my friends, with the exception of Harold Kramer, whom none of us can stand. · watch the Jets game, pre-TiVo, when A Walk on the Moon was on, but even today I'd probably win that one, too. · chew with his mouth open · complain about that withering look I give him when he chews with his mouth open · buy any article of clothing without my approval · underwear included · allow his nose hairs to go ungroomed for more than a week · okay, two weeks tops, but more than that he starts to look like a gorilla · bring home any paycheck less than what that schlemiel, my sister's husband, earns · "find himself" · say, "Watch out, kids, it's that time of the month," without serious repercussions. I'm using the term "Jewish wife" loosely. I recently met a super-controlling dictator from Iran (you've seen him on television), and after comparing notes we decided that we were so alike it was bashert I happened to bump into him while I was searching for an analogy, and he was taking surveillance photos in Times Square.
Despite our squeamishness about cultural stereotypes, there are tons of studies out there showing marked and quantifiable differences between Jews and Shiksas when it comes to husband management. In one study of 50 Shiksa wives and 48 Jewish wives, almost 90% of the Shiksa wives said either that "performing fellatio as a means of enforcing garbage duty compliance is kind of manipulative" or that "poet is a perfectly acceptable career for a man." By contrast, roughly 0% of the Jewish wives felt the same way.
I was born in the Year of the Gefilte Fish.
Just kidding! Why can't anyone tell I'm kidding? Gefilte fish isn't even an animal.
I had my 389th face-off with Melvin when he was about 47. It was a freezing winter afternoon in Scarsdale, NY, one of the coldest days of the year. The kids were off getting stoned at their friend Thatcher Greenstein's, who's kidding no one with that first name. I decided that it would be a perfect time for me to introduce Melvin to Swiss chard. A small request, but Melvin refused, saying it tasted like shit.
So I hung him by the ankles out the kitchen window.
Then I accidentally dropped him.
Oops.
Now who's going to take out the trash?
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