Rosmah Mansor, Malaysia’s ‘First Lady’.to shift society’s paradigm towards a dynamic way of thinking,’’

Raja Petra Kamarudin

Great leaders make good speeches

“Great leaders make good speeches,” says Rosmah Mansor, Malaysia’s ‘First Lady’. I hope she was just pulling our leg although it is not yet 1st April. If she means what she says then her husband, Najib Tun Razak, is not a great leader because he makes awful speeches, as you can see below.

A great leader is not one who can talk or make wonderful speeches. It is one who is able to walk the talk or practice what he or she preaches. Talking is cheap. Anyone can talk. It is delivering what you say that really matters.

(The Star) - One of the qualities of a great leader is his skill in delivering speeches, said Datin Seri Rosmah Mansor.

“Napoleon Bonaparte could move his tired and injured army to keep fighting regardless of the pain,” she said in her speech at the Malaysian Children’s Speech Competition 2010 yesterday.

She said Prime Minister Datuk Seri Najib Tun Razak hoped that the competition would produce Malaysians who were highly capable in leadership as well as public speaking.

“He understands the importance of public speaking in spreading effective messages or gathering the support of the community to shift society’s paradigm towards a dynamic way of thinking,’’ said Rosmah in her speech which was read by Yayasan Harapan Kanak-Kanak Malaysia (YHKM) media advisory board member Datuk Atiqah Adom.

Rosmah said multimedia presentations could be incorporated into traditional speech-giving methods for effectiveness.

Entering its sixth year, the competition was hosted by Universiti Putra Malaysia and organised by YHKM.

The winner of the Bahasa Malaysia category was Nurul Anis Amral, 12, who gave a speech about embracing independence in Malaysia.

Arathi Jeyaratnam, 12, from SK Marian Convent, Ipoh, was first in the English language category with her speech, “Our diversity, our strength”.

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never heard her speak nor is she known for her ideas. Is this another one of the public relations stunts that was paid to make her be bigger than she is? “We must stop waiting for opportunities to fall into our laps. We must seize opportunities with our own hard work, ideas and drive,” she asserted.".......sound familiar.

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Speaking at the third Asean Women Leaders Forum in Singapore, Datin Seri Rosmah Mansor mused that the crisis might have been averted if women had been in charge.

The feisty speaker, known as a force to be reckoned with in Malaysian politics, made the statement to drive home her point: women should be seated at the tables of power, whether corporate or political.

This is because they possess “intrinsic” leadership qualities, such as the power to persuade and the willingness to rethink arcane rules, that men do not, she argued.

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The keynote speaker at the forum, Rosmah took the opportunity to issue a rousing call to arms to the 150-strong audience of mostly women.“We must stop waiting for opportunities to fall into our laps. We must seize opportunities with our own hard work, ideas and drive,” she asserted.

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The patriarchal institutions and culture of Southeast Asia have not stopped women from “infiltrating” male-dominated governments and corporate arenas, she noted, citing as examples Corazon Aquino and Megawati Sukarnoputri.

The former was president of the Philippines from 1986 to 1992, and the latter president of Indonesia from 2001 to 2004.

Even when men control the levers of power, “there will be a woman or two who play pivotal roles in making that male leader excel”, said Rosmah, to appreciative laughter.

Najib and his wife are known to work as a team.

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Rosmah also noted that while women's leadership abilities come from their role as caregivers, the same responsibilities can also prevent them from taking up the gauntlet of governance.

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This was a point emphasised by her fellow keynote speaker, Lim Hwee Hua, Singapore Minister in the Prime Minister's Office and Second Minister for Finance and Transport, who was the first woman to become a full Cabinet minister in Singapore.

Persuading women to enter politics is especially difficult, she said, because “women juggle a whole lot more than men”.

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The loss of privacy as a politician is hard to bear for women, she said, more so because the scrutiny women in power are subjected to is often worse than what their male counterparts face.

“You get people asking women leaders questions about (their) children and families that they will never ask the men,” she said.

This double standard was also decried by Rosmah.

“If a woman works hard to succeed, she is often said to be pushy and bossy. The same characteristic in a man is determination and drive,” she observed.

Both women emphasised the role of policy in smashing glass ceilings for women. Childcare facilities at the workplace and the flexibility to work from home are measures both the Malaysian and Singapore governments have encouraged companies to take up, they noted.

But the ultimate driver of change must be women themselves. Women must “cease and desist” to be one another's worst enemies, said Rosmah.

Instead of competing, women must show solidarity and support one another.

In this spirit, she called for a global summit of First Ladies to be held in Kuala Lumpur in the middle of next year.

No formal invitations have been issued yet, but when she brought up the idea to fellow First Ladies during last month's meeting of Commonwealth heads of government in Trinidad and Tobago, “they were very excited”, she said.

Asked if Ho Ching, the wife of Singapore's Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong, would be attending, Rosmah said that she had not spoken to Ho at length about the event.

“But knowing her, I'm sure she would be very supportive.”

The one-day forum was organised by the Asean Business Forum and the Kuala Lumpur-based Asian Strategy and Leadership Institute.

Among the other speakers were Jannie Tay, executive vice-chairman of luxury watch retailer The Hour Glass, and Singapore's Minister of State for Community Development, Youth and Sports, Yu-Foo Yee Shoon.

Another speaker was Minister for Women, Family and Community Development, Datuk Seri Shahrizat Abdul Jalil, who is also head of Wanita Umno. — The Straits Times

Here's a quiz that will help you assess the current state of your relationship

Everything isn't always hunky-dory in a relationship. However, too many ups and downs may be a warning signal that it's high time you did some evaluation. Take this quiz to help you judge whether your relationship is as healthy as it should be. Answer each of the statements with a 'yes' or a 'no'.

The first picture show Anak Nazri, Malaysia's number one drunk and the son of Minister in the Prime Minister’s Department Datuk Seri Mohamed Nazri bin Tan Sri Abdul Aziz with his number one woman. The second and third pictures show Datuk Seri Nazri Azizhimself with his number two or three or number four woman assuming his wife is number one. LOL... Who knows the real ranking of the unidentified woman on top of Nazri Aziz in that bed? He may have hundreds for all we know. She might just be a random whore for all we know. Hopefully he himself is unable to identify her if she is just one of the random prostitute he visited over the years, or she might already be a dead woman.

The rest of the pictures show the younger and very lawless Nazri with his many girlfriends, his alcohol and his friends all enjoying the fantastic life of the elites in Malaysia. Muslims are not supposed to drink alcohol, so be sure to take note ofAnak Nazri with a glass of wine or a can of Heineken in his hand on several different occasions. These pictures would make for great evidence in a Syariah Court. Lets not even mention the lesbian kissing of his girlfriends for his viewing pleasure. The Nazri boy is a corrupting influence on his girls. But this Anak Nazri kid really know how to have fun, but if he is going to live like this he should reconsider his Islamic faith. Because he is breaking every law Muslim must live by. He seems to be the worse Muslim since Osama bin Laden. Lol, I joke I Joke.

My partner :
- Is very supportive of things that I do.
- Encourages me to try new things.
- Likes to listen when I have something on my mind.
- Understands that I have my own life too.
- Is not liked very well by my friends.
- Says I'm too involved in different activities.
- Texts me or calls me all the time.
- Thinks I spend too much time trying to look nice.
- Gets extremely jealous or possessive.
- Accuses me of flirting or cheating.
- Constantly checks up on me or makes me check in.
- Controls what I wear or how I look.
- Tries to control what I do and who I see.
- Tries to keep me from seeing or talking to my family and friends.
- Has big mood swings — yells at me one minute, and the next minute is apologetic.
- Makes me feel nervous.
- Puts me down and criticises me.
- Makes me feel like I can't do anything right.
- Makes me feel like no one else would want me.
- Threatens to hurt me, my friends or family.
- Threatens to hurt him/herself because of me.
- Threatens to destroy my things.
- Grabs, pushes, shoves or chokes to hurt me.
- Breaks things or throws things to intimidate me.
- Yells, screams or humiliates me in front of others.
- Pressures or forces me into having sex.

To rate your score :
Give yourself one point for every 'no' you answer to questions 1 - 4; one point for every 'yes' response to numbers 5 - 8 and five points for every 'yes' to question s 9 - 26.

Now tally your score :
0 points: Not to worry, it's a good thing! From the looks of it, your relationship is on a pretty healthy track.
1-2 points: If this is your score, you may be noticing a couple of things in your relationship that may be unhealthy. Keep an eye on troubling signs and ensure that you communicate with your partner.
3-4 points: You may be seeing some warning signs of an abusive relationship. Seek help from relevant people.
5 points or more: High alert! You are in an abusive relationship and need to take immediate steps.

You may dread bringing up the 'S' word with your kids, but experts say it is a must-talk-about topic, finds Rachel Fernandes

'Mum where did I come from?' That is a common question that most parents face. But it's not the question you need to focus on, what's more important is how, you as a parent, reacted when your child asked you this basic yet very complicating question? Did you cringe and say 'Chee don't ask such questions' or tell him/her 'the good old stock dropped you in my lap' story or did you given them a simple and practical answer? Experts vouch for the fact that how you answer this all important query can in fact, make quite a life-long impact on your child.

So what is the right age to start talking to your child about sex and exactly how much of information should you divulge? According to Seema Hingorrany, clinical psychologist, parents should right from the time the child is three-and-a-half years old. "You can't tell them about sex as they will not be able to comprehend it. However, right from that tender age, it's very important to teach them about a good touch versus a bad one, especially from known people and those in close contact with them," she says. Seema goes on to add that parents much teach their tiny tots about touching their private parts — that no one should touch them there and in case it happens, that they must report it immediately to mummy or dad and that it is a bad habit to touch or scratch one's private parts in public.

According to Swati Popat Vats, president of a popular education network, the ideal age to initiate a sex conversation is one year before puberty sets in. "Also, even when they are younger, if they ask sex related questions, answer them simply and frankly, don't bother about technical details. What is most important is not say chee or show disgust when the child asks such questions. This way you will only reinforce in their minds that sex is a dirty thing and the kid will start feeling ashamed about his or her sexual urges," she explains.
Most parents are, however, very apprehensive and dread the conversation and are more than happy to leave the task to someone else, most often the child's teachers. "Even though parents may not be aware of it, children often discuss about sex in their peer groups.

Hence, they are aware about it. They reason why parents need to talk to children is so that they get the right information and are not left confused by heresy, or wrong information from the internet" says Swati. Seema adds that most parents tend to get hyper when they have to have 'the talk' with kids. "Maintain your tone and maintain eye contact," she says.

The most important thing to remember is to keep the conversation simple and understandable. According to experts, a five-year-old can be told that s/he came out from mummy's tummy and show them pictures of a baby in the womb. A seven-year-old can be told about how an egg, that came from papa, got planted in mummy's tummy and then became him/her and came out after nine months. For children between 11 and 13 years of age, experts say, it is fine for parents to explain the basic concepts of sex. For kids over 14, however, it is important to explain the term sex clearly including conception and contraception.

Queenie, mother to 15-year-old Tiara and 12-year-old Rajveer says that though she hasn't spoken to them directly about sex, she keeps telling them about real life stories and relate them to various sexual terms. "As parents, we'd all like to believe that out kids are good and brought up well. But there are a lot of outside influences that are beyond our control. Hence, I make it a point to clearly explain the basic concepts to my kids," she adds.

Pooja Bedi, meanwhile, says that, right from a young age itself, she has taught her kids, 12-year-old Aliya and 10-year-old Omar, how to differentiate a right touch from a wrong one. "More importantly, I told them that it's never their fault and that they should come and tell me about it immediately and I will ensure that it won't happen again," she adds. About the actual talk, she says she'll need to broach it with her daughter in about a years time. "Right now she is in the whole anti-boys phase," she says laughing.

Seema concludes saying that when the child broaches some sex related topic, parents must treat it as a regular conversation. 'Tell them that it's normal for them to feel confused about sex at that age. Don't blame them or accuse them. This will only cause your child to develop a fear about sex and that's not something you want happening," she says.

What kind of speech was that? It is the lowest class speech I have ever heard. He was patronising the crowd and treating them like country bumpkins. Adolf Hitler was a great orator. He made wonderful speeches. According to Rosmah’s guidelines Hitler was a great leader. Well, tell that to the Jews, French, English, Dutch, Poles, and so on, and see whether they agree with you that Hitler was a great leader.

There were many ‘great leaders’ since time immemorial who were great orators and could move mountains with their oratory skills but were the worst leaders in history. They were cruel and violent. They conquered smaller countries that were helpless. They launched ethnic cleansing and exterminated entire populations. And much more.

To many Iraqis, Saddam Hussein was a great leader. His speeches could move people to tears. Closer to home, Sukarno of Indonesia was an example of a great leader. While Marie Antoinette, the French Queen, asked her people to eat cake, Sukarno asked his people to eat rats as long as they can ganyang (whack) Malaysia. And the Indonesians cheered and cried and treated Sukarno as a ‘God send’.

A great leader is not one who can talk or make wonderful speeches. It is one who is able to walk the talk or practice what he or she preaches. Talking is cheap. Anyone can talk. It is delivering what you say that really matters.

What kind of education is Rosmah subjecting the Malaysian youth to? She is teaching them that you must know how to talk, not how to walk the talk. Speeches must come from the heart. Only then will you mean what you say and say what you mean (bikin serupa cakap dan cakap serupa bikin, as the Malays would say).

We have had enough of talk-only leaders. The world is in a mess because of these talk-only leaders. The UN is a ‘talk shop’. NATO is ‘No Action Talk Only’ oganisation. The OIC is a ‘oh, I see’, another talk shop where the Muslims whack the ‘infidels’ and immediately afterwards Muslims make deals with the ‘infidels’ and sell out their brother Muslims. The OIC is the worst example of the hypocritical ‘Muslim Brotherhood’. But their leaders deliver great speeches.

We have had enough of leaders who are just great at talking but are not able to walk the talk. We want to see leaders who can deliver and who mean what they say and say what they mean. The entire world is in chaos because of leaders with great oratory skills. Malaysia too has its share of ‘great leaders’ who pandai cakap(clever at talking) but do not mean a word they say.

How can Najib be a great leader when he screams 1Malaysia in front of the Chinese and Indians and swears to uphold Ketuanan Melayu in front of the Malays? Maybe the fact that the Malays, Chinese and Indians all support him in spite of these contradicting signals is a mark of a great leader.

They say you can fool some of the people all the time, all the people some of the time, but not all the people all the time. And in Najib’s case he appears able to fool all the people all the time.

I suppose this makes him a great leader because not many are capable of doing this. But then with the rakyatMalaysia being bodoh (stupid) this is not that difficult to do.