Korean Couples Enjoy Making Love Debunking the first night myths

First night is always anticipation and aspiration fully loaded. But one should go about first night experiences carefully and in a matured manner.

Men won't like this. Women won't enjoy this. But the truth is out. An astonishing 45 per cent of men finish sex too quickly - in flat two minutes!

"Two minutes is way too speedy for the average woman to be able to have an orgasm through vaginal penetration alone," famous author Harry Fisch was quoted as saying on nerve.com.

Fisch has just released his new book titled "The New Naked: The Ultimate Sex Education for Grown-Ups" that is loaded with such information.

According to Fisch, the average duration is 7.3 minutes-only four minutes less than women's "ideal time".

The report supports the earlier theory of sex researcher Alfred Kinsey, whose research in the 1940s and 1950s concluded that three-quarters of men usually ejaculated within two minutes.

In an earlier paper published in Journal of Sexual Medicine, Czech psychologists Petr Weiss and Stuart Brody found that women's chance of having an orgasm was much more highly correlated with duration of sex than of foreplay, the report added.

expectations regarding marriage, in particular consummation. One of the things being the first night myths. Here's a list of things not to expect on your first night

Many marriages end because what spouses thought was love was mere lust. Also, the primary problem with lust is that it can never be satisfied, and the absence of real love causes a person to lose interest in the flame of what they thought will last a lifetime. 

So, if you are in a relationship of almost on the threshold of one, wait and ponder if you should really take that final plunge....

Here are some of the signs of lust:

1. You're totally in awe of the person's features.

2. You're focused on how 'cool' the person's appearance is.

3. Your conversations are always unreal and flirtatious.

4. You're obsessed around that person.

5. You're more like love birds than friends.

6. You're interested in having sex more than anything else.

7. You're more drawn to where that person is in life than the heart of the individual.

8. You're insensitive to everyone else around you and care only about what you can get through that relationship.

9. Lack of attention drives you to be a person you are never proud to be.

10. You place a greater focus on the fantasies than the actual facts and responsibilities of a relationship.

A rocking sex
Come on. Think practical. Both of you are too tired to do anything after all those rituals and the reception. So give each other some benefit of doubt to each other and not expect any rocking performance. Try to be happy even if it were some nice sessions of cuddling and intimacy.

You need to experience orgasm
This also is like expecting too much from each other. Because giving each other the climactic pleasure comes after some time. So allow yourself to learn more on his or her preferences and turn on points and wait a bit for the momentum to pick up.

You need to fake an orgasm
This also is avoidable. Since this is going to be the beginning of your journey to the most intimate moments, instead of faking all types of ecstatic emotions, just be romantic and talk about your preferences and know-how about sexual positions.

You should talk sex
First night is meant to be an ice breaker. So, even if you do not talk sex it does not mean that your sexual life will not take off. In reality, it is not like that. Enjoy those moments together and just chill. Try to spend some cozy moments together and try to figure out each other's likings.

It ought to be the man first
This is another myth. What if the man is expecting some initiative from the woman. So, be open and share love and not preconceived notions that you have been fed with.