Monday, June 10, 2013

Sex? We are Indians! indeed one sexually confused after all, an Indian invention


Anupama Verma just like any other woman likes her man to have a fantastic well-sculpted body yet be a real softy at heart. 

Men usually do not realise that women love it sometimes when they are the romantic, mushy type. A man does not always have to be macho. Anupama says, "To begin with, I really wish men would be more sensitive-it's sexy when a man has a body of metal and is a softy at heart. And I wish more men would be gentlemen - it would give them brownie points because all women love gentlemen."

Chivalry once in a while really makes a lot of difference.

When it comes to men they really need to realise that. Anupama says, "Wish men would understand that it's every woman's inherent need to be an irritating shopaholic - take it or leave it!"

Here are some more points that Anupama wishes men would understand about women..

I wish they would learn that its the effort which counts-so what if the food is barely edible-at least she tried!

Wish they would understand women have butter fingers-forgive her even if she spilled nail varnish on your favourite shirt-happens!

Wish they would understand that its great to be buddies so open that heart and speak up if something is bothering you.

Sincerely wish they would bury their ego where it cannot be found!

Wish they would understand cuddles are the solution to most problems.

Wish they would understand that a woman needs you to stand by her in front of the world and not yell at her, especially when she's goofed up.

Wish the dumbos would understand that every woman is a little girl inside and all she wants is love and she will turn her world around for you!
A young couple, five years, 37 countries. An English scholar and computer engineer explain how their passion — for each other and travelling — works to their favour

There are people who love travelling alone. I'm not one of them. Vidit and I have been travelling together for five years and we've covered 37 countries, all the while holding full time jobs. I am an academic and have just completed a PhD in English Literature. Vidit is a computer engineer and we're both based in London. It isn't easy to juggle travelling and working, but the key lies in prioritising: We've opted for jobs that pay less than the average corporate job, but are flexible and make it easy for us to take off.

We have driven with zebras in South Africa, carved our way through stalactites and stalagmites in Austria, cavorted with bedouins in the Sahara desert, grilled our dinner using heat from a volcano, befriended soldiers in Israel, and partied in a nuclear bunker in the Czech Republic. Years on the road have taught me one thing: You must be incredibly compatible with your travel companion of choice.

Vidit and I have been married for four years, but we've practically grown up together. We were schoolmates, friends, we dated for years, and then we got married. For our wedding, we opted for a simpler civil ceremony so that we could spend money travelling. Instead of gold and other gifts, we received a DSLR camera for our travels — the Nikon D80 has travelled to four continents with us, and is still going strong.

Shared interests have seen us through our journeys — long and short. Both of us have a voracious appetite for street art, street food, culture, and music. We find it impossible to rest in peace till we have explored every nook and cranny of the city, island, or country we're visiting. We've spent weeks in Morocco and Spain trying to sample every kind of food on offer — even sheep's head (soft, slightly chewy, tasty). On a recent trip to Berlin, Vidit and I spent over two days looking for pieces by renowned street-art masters like DScreet, Stik, and Jimmy C in alleys, warehouses, and abandoned squat-houses. This might be exhausting for some, but for us, the thrill of finding that hidden piece of art, sleepy tapas bar, secluded beach, or ruins which no travel guide lists, is second to none.

Of course, travelling with a clone would be no fun. We have varied interests too, but they have a strange way of working to our advantage. Thanks to my obsession with twentieth-century art, Vidit has learnt not to get impatient while I spend hours swooning over Dalis and Piccassos at every museum. On a recent trip to Madrid, I was scrutinising Picasso's Guernica at the Reina Sofia Museum when Vidit recognised it. It struck me then that he too, has begun to enjoy Modernist art and can probably wax eloquent about Cubist masterpieces with the abandon of a curator now. That might be the reason for his birthday gift to me this year — tickets to Figueres (Spain) to visit The Dali Theatre-Museum, the largest surrealistic object in the world.


Something similar happened to me: Vidit, a coffee connoisseur, roasts and grinds his own coffee at home. I used to dislike searching for elusive cafes in Paris or London, but now I've begun to enjoy the process. During our Berlin trip, we went looking for a cafe called Barn. It was raining hard and Barn is over two miles away from the nearest metro station, but I was looking forward to devouring a velvety smooth Machiato at the end of the walk. I may not be able to tell my Brazilian coffees from my Ethiopian, but I have begun to smell my coffee before drinking it, and that makes me feel very fancy. However travelling together isn't always a breeze — travelling with a photographer means I am doomed to chasing sunrises and sunsets when I'd much rather be snuck in a fluffy duvet or downing a night-cap in a quaint bar. But I've learnt to work my way around it. It's nothing a dozen books and an iPod can't solve. Travelling as a couple is a two-way street, built on reciprocity. Once that is in order, it's time for fun and games. There's someone to carry you home when you sprain an ankle (with a supermarket cart — true story), to hug you after a long trek, someone who has experienced the same sunset that left you wide-eyed in wonder. These experiences are tough to articulate, but having someone to share them with makes travelling less intimidating and more exciting.




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