Monday, April 4, 2011

What if your Malay wife was cheating you? Short Hair Malay Chick Gets Naught

We are constantly hearing about male celebrities who have given into unwise indulgences. What if a woman was to go out and have an affair? Would the transgression be ignored by the husband or would she have to pay big time?

She is said to be the wife of one of Barisan National









Rahul and Ruhi have been married for 8 years. A happy, compatible couple, Ruhi is the introvert in the relationship. She interests are few and far between, but she definitely loves reading. Luckily for her, she works for a publishing house in Delhi. Rahul, on the other had is full of beans, laughing and joking and the life of a party. Not surprisingly, he is a trainer at a well-known call centre.

Being neighbours, I have known them for years. At festival time we surely meet up and sometimes, I bump into Rahul at the gym we both visit. But off late, I haven't seen either Rahul or Ruhi. I wait a few days thinking maybe they have gone out of town. But when three months passed, a bit worried, I looked up Rahul's number in my diary.

What he said left even me a tad surprised. Ruhi had been meeting another man on the sly for what it seems almost a year now. And only recently did Rahul get whiff of it. I meet him for coffee and discuss the issue extensively.

Cheating. The word itself is associated with negativity and naturally brings negative connotations into a relationship. What people who cheat fail to understand is that marriage is a 'contract of exclusivity'. It is an institution where the two – husband and wife decide to live together with a mission of fulfilling each other's needs. So when the contract of exclusivity is breached, or overlooked it brings the marriage to a stage of vulnerability which may even lead to dissolution. Although all marriages, where either or both partners indulge in cheating, do not break.

Different dynamics
I asked Rahul would he have felt any different had he been caught cheating on Ruhi? Relationships have different dynamics when cheating is done by the wife and different when it is done by the husband. Comparatively more marriages with the cheating husbands survive than marriages with cheating wives. The reason behind this fact is that wives are more accepting as compared to the husbands. Wives are likely to keep her husband's philandering ways a secret so as to avoid ruining the relationship completely. She will try to assess whether the husband is guilty and make him promise that he will not repeat such transgressions. However, it is the opposite when a wife is caught cheating. The husband, it is observed, will loudly declare it to the girl's family and will involve his family too.

Varying reactions
When wife is caught cheating, the husband shows an explosive reaction of anger. It contains abuse either verbal or physical or both. In some cases the husband also tries to threaten or bring harm to the other man who is involved with his wife. Sometimes this reaction also follows a denial to stay with the wife and bringing an end to the marriage. Incase there are children, the husband tries to share his ill-feelings with them as well. All this is surprisingly missing when the husband is caught cheating.

Torturous feelings
When the husband gets to know that his wife has been cheating on him, he undergoes feelings of inferiority and feels competitive of the other man. He undergoes a feeling of self-rejection, which damages his self-esteem. So simply saying he asks himself, "What was I lacking?" This is very different when the husband is cheating. The wife of such a husband gets the feeling of having lost her husband, similar to a sense of loss of possession. So the question that such wives think is, "Why did he go away from me?" Rahul is mortified by what Ruhi has done. He feels inadequate, completely useless as a man and most as a husband.

Healing too differs
How will Rahul feel better? How will his marriage, if at all, survive? Husbands feel haunted by the repetitive thoughts of their wives cheating them. The husband visualises the complete picture of all that his wife may have done with the other man. He gets so obsessed with this imaginative movie that it affects his sleep, food intake and work. He gets into a comparative analysis with all that he has done in the marriage and his imagination about the whole act of cheating runs riot. Comparatively it takes much more effort to psychologically heal the husband of the cheating wife than the wife of the cheating husband. The difficulty in healing the marriage is marked by the husband's obsessive thought pattern around the act of cheating. It requires him to work on letting go of the obsession. Whereas incase of the cheating husbands, the wife needs to be given reassurance that there will be loyalty in future, if at all there is one together.

Reoccurence of transgression
Incase the marriage survives and the cheating wife promises to abide by the contract of exclusivity, it has been observed that most of the wives maintain their promise. But this is different when the husband is cheating – such husbands are likely to again indulge in illicit relationships outside the marriage, as compared to the wives who have cheated.

Acceptance by both
When the cheating wife is given acceptance on the grounds of maintaining commitment for the future, mostly it has been observed that the husbands will make a mention of her past indulgence in an extra marital relationship. Even when she maintains her integrity in the future, the husbands do not leave an opportunity to make her feel guilty as compared to the case when the wife has accepted a cheating husband.

Marital life is indeed different for a man and a woman when there is an instance of cheating. Different people have different opinions around this topic because of the difference in value systems that develop. But still a third person can come between a couple only when there is space between them. A marriage only rests on one fact i.e. complete sharing – of needs, expectations and experiences. When there is sharing by both, almost all of the needs, be it emotional or physical, can be taken care. And as a result there will be no gap and complete bonding will exist. This is what I have advised Rahul and Ruhi and I hope they can carry on the path of matrimony.

Should you forgive your cheating spouse?

Boys and girls who lose their virginity before the age of 16 start thinking of themselves as adults and prefer to go to work than spend three years at college, finds a new study.

The six-year study of more than 5,000 pupils aged 14 to 18, by academics at the University of Glasgow , found that even after allowing for pregnancy, class and social background, there were still more school dropouts among those who lost their virginity earlier.

The research is published in the Journal of Adolescence , reports The Daily Express .

James Turner, policy director at the Sutton Trust said: "Staying on at school or university is one of the surest ways to improve your lot in life, and it is a shame if any group is missing out on this."

I love my girlfriend, but she makes it so hard to be honest!" A young, 22-year-old can't understand the paradox of loving someone and being unable to be completely honest. After all, weren't we brought up to believe that love and honesty went hand-in-hand if a couple was to experience the bliss of togetherness?


True, but it's also important for the person at the receiving end, to take a step back and realise, maybe it's a two-way street! Maybe, your partner is not the only one to blame. If you find that your partner is lying to you, the first thing you do, (post the yelling/shock) is to get to the heart of the matter. Here are reasons why couples in relationships lie:

Too many rules
Sometimes, couples set unnecessary, controlling boundaries for partners that lead to lying. Nobody likes being told what to do. For instance, the boyfriend decides his girlfriend cannot talk to any other boy or cannot hang out with her gal pals. In such cases, a partner might feel suffocated and pull away, heralding a volley of lies.

Fear of criticism
Partners usually seek support and appreciation from each other, but if they face harsh criticism or feel condemned when they make a mistake, lying might be the easiest route out.

Defence mechanism
A lot of people adopt lying as a way of life, as it makes life easier, helps avoid punishment or negativity and solves short-term problems. Facing the truth, accepting reality and then incorporating a change is hard, but it's definitely possible.

Peer pressure
People also lie under peer pressure to indulge in activities that might potentially upset their partners (such as smoking or drinking).

Acceptance
It's difficult to find people who love and accept you for the person you are. When people feel alienated, they exaggerate facts or make up stories for approval. So, what should one do if they find that they are being lied to?

Think about what your partner lied about — is it trivial or something that could scar your relationship or your self-esteem.

Clear your communication channels. Ask your partner his reasons for lying. Understand their motivation and decide over time, if it's acceptable to you or not.

Comprehend your partner's reaction — is he sincere about not repeating the lie. It could also be a mirror to one's own insecurities.

Figure out if you can change your attitude towards your partner, which might improve bonding and avoid unnecessary lies in the future. Maybe you were too harsh and had unrealistic expectations. What 'you' would do in a similar situation — try and explain that as a solution to your partner. Explain your needs and wants in a clear and calm manner. Lies are mostly unnecessary and painful. But this time around, use the lessons to understand your individual personalities and compatibility. Experience is the best teacher and at worst, it's an excuse to eat more chocolate, meet new people and to try something different!

This is suppose to be a Malay chick from Malaysia and here she is presenting her titties and getting naked. Anyway, remember to send any interesting pictures and videos (of individuals 18 year-old or older) to GutterUncensored@yahoo.com ASAP.Click on pictures to enlarge.

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Here is a Malay chick getting a little naughty with her Caucasian boyfriend at university. And I got so say she is a cutie with her short dyke hair cut. But from this set it is pretty obvious she is no dyke! LOL... Anyway, remember to send any interesting pictures and videos (of individuals 18 year-old or older) toGutterUncensored@yahoo.com ASAP. Click on pictures to enlarge.
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Intan Private Friendster Leaked Nude Sex Pictures Malay Scandal


Here are a few pictures of supposedly a Malaysian chick sporting a tudung by day and then getting a little naughty at night. This head scarfed gal is name Intansupposedlyand her pictures at her boldest were leaked from her Friendster profile mid last year. Please drop a line in comments if you known more about the story behind this leak or if you have additional info about this chick from Malaysia according to a source. This leaked photo scandal from the popular social networking site of a hot and ready for some sex Malay hottie is now widely known as "Intan Private Friendster" or "Intan Scandal." The photos have spread like wildfire via mass mailer emails and with at least twenty five tipsters emailing it toGutterUncensored@yahoo.com since Tuesday, 4/9/2009. So it is about time this set of pics got posted on Gutter Uncensored.

Aside from that weird mark on her right breast and legs in need of a shave, this chick is rather nice. Intan has a pretty face and overall a lovely tight little body but even more importantly she is not one bit shy. She doesn't practice safe sex and it is always nice to find a young woman willing to take a cock raw causally. And I don't know about you guys but I for one find a chick in a tudung (a scarf worn around the head by Muslim women in Malaysia; conceals the hair but not the face) hot as fuck and especially hot as fuck when she has leaked sex pictures/videos going viral. Anyway, I was on Facebook the other day and some fan of the blog requested more nude Malay babes so Melayu Boleh!
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